Those Unclean Narcissistic Spirits

We often find ourselves driving down the same streets over and over again, bewildered as to how and or why we are where we are.

It’s almost like going through a corn maze. Just as soon as you thought you had found the path to the exit, you are right back on the path you were on 15 to 20 minutes ago, feeling trapped, in a state of stuckness, and trying to get out.

And thus, the record player becomes, “I thought that I was done with this particular situation. Why am I dealing with this again?”

This recording has both a loaded statement and question.

There is not a one size fits all answer. We could be listing the reasons all day long.

Sometimes we are dealing with certain areas over and over again because we are peeling the onion of that particular area one layer of a time. It’s tempting to want to plow through traumatic and emotional events. However, it’s not in our best interest.

Plowing through trauma equals elevated areas of pain. It’s the too much too fast syndrome so to speak.

We can order up 50 years of problems in three months please at the McDonald’s drive-through. Healing is work. And self-work takes time. Lots of time, energy, patience, and resilience.

But then we have other issues that are not dealing with plowing through trauma at all. These issues stem from lack of action on our part. Not knowing our identity, having a lack of unworthiness, possessing a lack of boundaries, appointing ourselves as the family, workplace, group, and or church scapegoat, projection, and our desire to control all contribute to unclean spirits re-entering areas in our mind, body, sold, and spirit that have already been cleaned out

And thus, when they re-enter, they bring seven other friends(demonic spirits) with them.

“When the unclean spirit has gone out of a person, it passes through waterless places seeking rest, but finds none. Then it says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when it comes, it finds the house empty, swept, and put in order.  Then it goes and brings with it seven other spirits more evil than itself, and they enter and dwell there, and the last state of that person is worse than the first. So also will it be with this evil generation.”

Matthew 12:43-45, ESV

We like to skip over this part because it forces us to look at the role we are playing in the narcissistic system, whether it be at your church, in your home, family, workplace and or business location.

Like dealing with fractions, as soon as we can locate what the common denominator is in each and every one of the situations, then, and only then, can we come up with a feasible solution. Otherwise, we continue to go round and round, strung out, and in circles to a slavery system that is going nowhere until you make the decision to break camp.

When Do I Let Go

One of the hardest things to do is to get to the point of letting go of people, places, things, and ideas no longer serving us.

Two of the main culprits is history and value. You’ve known this friend since high school. Your parents went to school together. You joined the same sorority in college.

But does that mean that this person is the one who has been called to be in your future?

Some of the questions that you can ask yourself when it comes to deciding what needs letting go are the following:

Where am I now?

What are my values?

Where are they now?

What are their values?

What is the mission and vision of my calling?

Does this person, place, thing, or idea align with my values, vision, and mission?

After answering these questions, the truth is what will really often surprise you.

We sabotage our calling when our daily habits, routines, and relationships are incongruent with our mission and vision.

Healing after narcissistic abuse requires letting go of the people, places, things, and ideas/concepts that reinforce a slavery mindset and limited worldview.

Remember, slavery mindset means that you are in Energizer bunny mode 24/7. God solved this mindset and way of living by instituting Sabbath.

The more we open our minds to curiosity about people, places, things, and ideas, the more we can begin to eliminate the limited worldview stemming from our family’s love story garden, and reinforced by other people, places, things, and ideas along the way, and adopt God’s worldview, solely based on his abundance, sovereignty, and ownership of the world.

Until next time,

Katina

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I Just Want To Sit on The Couch in My Comfort Zone of REST

We all have a place of comfort. A comfort zone so to speak.
There’s nothing wrong with being comfortable. However, when we step into the place and space of a comfort zone, we are entering a realm that involves limits. Growth and comfort cannot coexist.
A limited worldview. A limited mindset.

Limitations emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, intellectually, socially, relationally, and financially.


In order to be stretched, we have to come out of the comfort zone. When we cross the threshold of the comfort zone, we enter the land of stretching, growing, healing, wholeness, and curiosity as to what our future could possibly look like and more.


When we stay in the comfort zone, we only heal to the point where it hurts, but not too much. The relationship is toxic, but not toxic enough for us to get out and deal with the pain of disentanglement. We tread the threshold of seeing the Promised Land, but desiring slavery because of the work.

Where are some areas in which you can push past the comfort zone and heal?

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Relationships-Who’s Doing the Watering?

The growing requirements of a seed is evident. Our relationships are the same way.

We cannot expect them to grow when they are one-sided. If we are sowing all of the seeds, there is one-sided reaping that will happen. When we don’t have the true light and knowledge of God‘s word to guide us, we get caught up in false doctrine, twisted theology, and limited worldviews.

When we are not checking to make sure that the soil of the person’s heart is healthy, we leave ourselves open to be injured over and over again. When we are not assessing the temperature on the thermometer showing that frigid temps have taken over, we keep trying to hope and pray that some kind of way, our relationships will get watered without the other party doing the work.

What, after all, is Apollos? And what is Paul? Only servants, through whom you came to believe—as the Lord has assigned to each his task.

I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow.

The one who plants and the one who waters have one purpose, and they will each be rewarded according to their own labor. For we are co-workers in God’s service; you are God’s field, God’s building.

1 Corinthians 3:6-9

Relationships-Who’s Doing the Watering?

We stay in places, ideas, things, and relationships that have dried up a long time ago because we fail to obey the promptings of the Holy Spirit, our instinct, intuition, and discernment, along with the evidence of the countenance of the individual changing.

We want to idolize the history. We want to idolize whatever small amount of value the individual may be giving us. We want to idolize the good old times. But when we idolize the good old times, the new thing that God is doing is what we miss out on.

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.

Isaiah 43:28-19

When it comes to being in relationships with narcissistic individuals, several things will always be present: spiritual blindness, arrogance based on insecurity, hardened hearts, and toxic envy, and jealousy. This means that the empathic, prophetic side of you will always be at war with the demonic side of them seeking to kill, steal, and destroy everything in its path.

At the end of the day, we have to ask ourselves, do we want to live in dry land forever ?

And it came to pass after a while, that the brook dried up, because there had been no rain in the land.

And the word of the Lord came unto him, saying,

Arise, get thee to Zarephath, which belongeth to Zidon, and dwell there: behold, I have commanded a widow woman there to sustain thee.

1 Kings 17:7-9

Until next time,

Be blessed

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