Those Unclean Narcissistic Spirits

We often find ourselves driving down the same streets over and over again, bewildered as to how and or why we are where we are.

It’s almost like going through a corn maze. Just as soon as you thought you had found the path to the exit, you are right back on the path you were on 15 to 20 minutes ago, feeling trapped, in a state of stuckness, and trying to get out.

And thus, the record player becomes, “I thought that I was done with this particular situation. Why am I dealing with this again?”

This recording has both a loaded statement and question.

There is not a one size fits all answer. We could be listing the reasons all day long.

Sometimes we are dealing with certain areas over and over again because we are peeling the onion of that particular area one layer of a time. It’s tempting to want to plow through traumatic and emotional events. However, it’s not in our best interest.

Plowing through trauma equals elevated areas of pain. It’s the too much too fast syndrome so to speak.

We can order up 50 years of problems in three months please at the McDonald’s drive-through. Healing is work. And self-work takes time. Lots of time, energy, patience, and resilience.

But then we have other issues that are not dealing with plowing through trauma at all. These issues stem from lack of action on our part. Not knowing our identity, having a lack of unworthiness, possessing a lack of boundaries, appointing ourselves as the family, workplace, group, and or church scapegoat, projection, and our desire to control all contribute to unclean spirits re-entering areas in our mind, body, sold, and spirit that have already been cleaned out

And thus, when they re-enter, they bring seven other friends(demonic spirits) with them.

“When the unclean spirit has gone out of a person, it passes through waterless places seeking rest, but finds none. Then it says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when it comes, it finds the house empty, swept, and put in order.  Then it goes and brings with it seven other spirits more evil than itself, and they enter and dwell there, and the last state of that person is worse than the first. So also will it be with this evil generation.”

Matthew 12:43-45, ESV

We like to skip over this part because it forces us to look at the role we are playing in the narcissistic system, whether it be at your church, in your home, family, workplace and or business location.

Like dealing with fractions, as soon as we can locate what the common denominator is in each and every one of the situations, then, and only then, can we come up with a feasible solution. Otherwise, we continue to go round and round, strung out, and in circles to a slavery system that is going nowhere until you make the decision to break camp.

Are you just washing the outside, or are you taking care of your heart?

Did you like washing dishes as a kid?

If so, did you do a good job, or one that required other people to go behind you and redo the job?

I NEED THOSE DISHES WASHED!!!
When you have unclean dishes in the sink, you generally wash them. It may not be right away, but they eventually get done.

Then there are other times when you’re tired, and you don’t feel like washing dishes at all.
You might let the dishes sit for a day or two or maybe even three.

If you choose the last option, everything in the sink will eventually start smelling.

This is the same thing that happens in our minds, bodies, souls, and spirits.

When clutter and debris sits inside of those areas too long, we develop a stench, instead of the sweet aroma of Christ.

Toxic gases are emitted instead of purified hearts.
What would happen if you only clean the outside of every dish, and then place them inside of the dish rack?

You’d risk getting food poisoning, a possible infection, and or a food-borne virus.


You’d then go to the doctor and grab antibiotics, but then you’re not tackling the root of the problem, which is washing the inside of the dishes.


Therefore, nine times out of ten, you’re going back to the doctor for antibiotics again.


This is what happens when unclean spirits enter our realm. We refuse to enter the phase of troubleshooting to get to the source of the problem, and we enter a vicious cycle of reinfecting our minds, bodies, souls, and spirits once again.

Without identifying the source of the problem, then implementing a strategy and a plan for attacking this source, we become a perpetual host for everybody else’s drama, at the expense of solely dealing with our own.

And just like with germs, once you’re identified as a host, everybody uses your soul for their toxic unresolved trauma and undealt with brokenness.

Know your power. Know your worth. Know your value. Know your soul.

What areas are you washing?


Until next time,


Katina

Where is Your Journey Taking You?

The Journey represents unresolved trauma, undealt with brokenness, wounds, disappointment, discontentment, disillusionment, despair, the LACK cycle of addictions, and the pit.  Your journey represents the 3 part anointing of God the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit on your uniquely designed destiny with your name on it.

Joseph took The Journey to elevation.

David’s 3 part anointing was called “your journey” to elevation.

Both are necessary.

Both are difficult.

Both require testing.

Both require investing.

How badly you want your journey will determine how well you tackle The Journey. 

You Choose to Become Friends With Control

When you choose to ignore the Sabbath, you choose to become friends with control.

Being in the driver seat of control means that God is not even riding shotgun. As a matter of fact, you have placed him somewhere in the trunk.

Why?

As humans we believe that our solutions are better than God’s. This disillusionment and tunnel vision focus leads to bondage. And in turn, this bondage leads to coming up with false concepts about God and his love for us.

Our addiction to being in the driver seat means that we value:

Toxicity over purification

Control over trust

Slavery our freedom

Harmful over beneficial

Why?

Because we focus on what we have a right to do. And Paul tackled this clearly:

1 Corinthians 6:12 NIV

“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything.

It Is Finished-I Release Control

It is finished.

I am finished.

Looking for the perfect hairstyle.

Looking for the perfect clothing.

Looking for the perfect meals.

Looking for the perfect children.

Looking to be the perfect wife.

Looking to have the perfect home.

Looking to my partner as my god.

Have you ever truly said these three words?

When you say it is finished, you sign off to the fact that the striving is over. You will not try to control the outcome of the relationship. You will not beg your narcissistic partner to change. You will not try to fix him, control him, manipulate him a little bit in order to have the best version of him, be the best version of you, and have your needs met.

You will not beg for attention, love, affection, etc. You will not try to Build a Bear when it comes to your narcissistic partner. You will release control. You will allow God to be sovereign. You will be yourself and allow your partner to be himself.

It is finished.

Later, knowing that everything had now been finished, and so that Scripture would be fulfilled, Jesus said, “I am thirsty.”  A jar of wine vinegar was there, so they soaked a sponge in it, put the sponge on a stalk of the hyssop plant, and lifted it to Jesus’ lips. When he had received the drink, Jesus said, “It is finished.” With that, he bowed his head and gave up his spirit.

John 19:28-30

7 Things Used By Covert Narcissists, Self-Righteous Narcissists, & Limited Worldview People to Block You From the Promised Land Part 2

People will do anything and everything to stop the work of God. Every tactic in the book will be used, including talking about your children and the people who you’ve been called to help, if possible. Nothing and no one is off limits. Listen in to find out what happened in scripture and how this plotting also correlates to what is and has happened to you. Either you will end up moving as God moves, or moving as the crowd moves, and miss out on your calling. #love #narcissist #dysfunctionalfamily

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The Dysfunctional Patterns of Behavior Dance

Family dysfunction is learned behavior that has both been introduced into our DNA and socially adapted by what we see. It’s just like the old, saying, “monkey see monkey do.”

When we are not cognizant and self aware of our own patterns and behaviors, then we definitely cannot be other aware when it comes to the patterns and behaviors of individuals whom we are in relationship with. As the saying goes, we become the average of the five people that we hang out with the most.

And because we all have some type of brokenness, testing the spirits, inspecting the fruit like we do when we are in the produce department, and understanding our unresolved trauma, undealt with Brokenness, and proclivities, help us in knowing how to navigate the same familiar spirits in other people.

This is basically how you got hooked up with a narcissistic partner in the first place. Think of a AA battery. There is a plus and minus charge on each side. Your brokenness and how you define understand love is matched up with those same familiar spirits in him times 100, and on a whole Nother level.

When you understand your cycles, and the concepts that you have developed around love, you break the patterns, heal, and walk in wholeness.

The Hard to Detect Cerebral Vulnerable Narcissist Bonus Episode

Being in a relationship with a cerebral vulnerable narcissist is like drinking a toxic cocktail of “I know more than God”, and my victimhood, and status in general, makes me entitled to what I want, and I will do anything to get it.” Listen in to this bonus episode.

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We so believe in the emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical well-being of every woman that we donate 100% of the proceeds of The Valley of Grace Shop to Valley of Grace Ministries.

Valley of Grace Ministries provides many services, including coaching for women, without the financial roadblocks.

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Speaker

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Course Creator

Dance Minister

E-commerce Store Owner

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Did You Pick Up The Right Bag of Fruit?-Toxic Relationships

Sometimes our friends, family, and coworkers may approach us and ask, “ how do you know if a person you are dating or in any other relationship with has good intentions?”

And that seems like a very difficult question to answer. We’ve come up with all different kinds of secret formulas to make this happen. The bottom line is: we have the Holy Spirit, who is our helper, teacher, counselor, comforter, and indwelling friend. And we often forget that.

And then, along with the Holy Spirit aiding us in testing the spirits of the individuals we interact with on a daily basis, we also have the ability to evaluate fruit. If every time we come in contact with certain individuals, and all they do is slander other people, then we know that the fruit they are bearing would be slanderers.

Pretty soon, we will be slanderers.

It’s kind of like going to the grocery store. It’s rare that we end up purchasing bad fruit on purpose. This usually happens if we are buying fruit by the bag. Four instance, if we are purchasing a bag of apples, oranges, tangerines, etc. It’s hard to see every single piece of fruit in the bag.

And just like with the fruit, haphazardly, placing people with toxic traits in our shopping carts are only going to lead to us having toxic hearts, minds, soul, and spirits. We end up buying fruit by the bag when we join clubs, Bible study groups, Ministries, and Churches where we have no way of knowing that there are a few rotten fruit in the bag until we see these individuals outside of their usual places and spaces.

And sometimes even then, it may take a few years, and extensive healing and growing on our part towards self-actualization before we are really able to assess that these particular individuals have existed in our lives all along for Satan‘s agenda of stealing, killing, and destroying us.

So what is the lesson for us in all of this? Never be in a hurry when you’re shopping for fruit.

Healing with the Holy Spirit

The Holy Spirit lives inside of us to comfort, convict, teach, reveal, and sanctify.

When we’re in trouble, we turn to everything and everyone but the Holy Spirit. Speaking directly to the Holy Spirit who resides inside of us enables him to activate. He won’t force himself on us. For he is a gentleman. When it comes to being comforted, we prefer foods, drugs, alcohol, sex, television shows, shopping, and anything else that we can get our hands on. The problem with these alternatives is that they keep our minds, hearts, and souls tied and entangled in bondage.

We forget that we have a built-in comforter. That built-in comforter is there to wrap around us like the feeling of down feathers.


How many times do we forget to partner with the Holy Spirit when it comes to emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, financial, and relational healing? We want to be self-sufficient instead of God-sufficient. Self-sufficiency leads to pride, technology addictions, burn out, and disillusionment.

We forget to tap into the Holy Spirit because we tapped into our former partners portraying the angel of light, who he himself were infected with the spirit of narcissism. Thus, we think the answer is now tapping into ourselves, and not needing anybody. This is where we’ve got it wrong.

Healing from narcissistic abuse is a lot of work. And not only is it a lot of work, it requires a lot of energy. Our minds and bodies are connected. Thus, as we are pouring out all of the massive thoughts that are in our minds, we are also pouring out all of the massive memories stored within the cells of our bodies.

When we tap into all that God has given us for our inheritance, we are truly using our keys to the kingdom here on earth.

Questions to ponder:


What are some new and undiscovered ways in which you can see the Holy Spirit?

What are some ways that you kept yourself from the Holy Spirit?

How did you learn to let go of your idea of the Holy Spirit box, carrying him around like an object that needs to be contained?  Or, have you surrendered to him being unleashed in every area of your life?