This category focuses on all the areas in which we take care of our physical bodies: eating, working out, establishing a morning and evening routine, self-care, meditation, yoga, dancing, etc. We all need to encompass wellness as part of our empowered new chapter of life. However, it will look different for each and every one of us.
It’s easy to say you’re moving on. It’s not so easy to move forward. Moving forward involves processing trauma. Moving on pretends like the trauma and situations never existed. Listen in to learn how Jacob moved forward. #podcast #healing #cycles #emotional #emotionalbaggage
We say that it is ours as well. However, our actions say different. We often mask control by saying that we’re helping so that the outcome is the exact one that we hoped and prayed for. But that is not God’s way. Listen in as a monthly coaching subscriber.
When it comes to reclaiming our power, soul, and identity, there are several things that we will realize that we have unintentionally taken for granted. Number one would be our health, thinking that we could max ourselves out with to-do lists, ripping and running, situationships, and extremely dysfunctional and unhealthy people and still be okay. We take our family and friends for granted, thinking that they will always be alive, available, and have the capacity to deal with all of the drama and trauma that we are faced with, let alone their own.
But there is another thing that we rarely talk about. Alignment. We take the art of alignment for granted, thinking that we can be in covenant with any person, place, thing, or idea, and our hearts, minds, bodies, souls, and spirits will be okay.
When we are aligned, everything eventually falls in place like it should be. I’m not saying that sometimes we won’t have to fight for what is ours. Because sometimes we will. The Israelites were to told to go in and take possession of the land that God had already promised them and placed their name on.
However, they allowed their perception of themselves to distort and misalign God’s leading, direction, and guidance. They allowed the majority of the twelve spies to dictate what they believed instead of their faith and God’s truth. We are in danger of doing the same thing if we’re not careful.
How does happen? We all held/ hold toxic belief systems and worldviews that were molded in our family’s love story garden, and then reinforced with narcissistic partners, friends, coworkers, ministry and business partners. We have to go through a detoxification process of healing and then self-discovery to get to our authentic selves that are grounded and rooted in Christ.
Failure to go through a detoxification process, and then self-discovery, means we take those toxic belief systems and worldviews wherever we go, as if they are pieces of luggage. They become our mantra. We become excited when we hear a prophetic word from the Lord regarding moving forward. However, that word and joy become easily crushed because the roots of our heart soil have been damaged.
Alignment means that even though that church is known for its fabulous worship team it may not be for you. Alignment means that even though that man looks and smells good, he may not be for you. Alignment means that even though it’s a good job, it may not be a God job, and thus, it may not be for you. When you are aligned, your mind, body, soul, and spirit are not in constant battles with the Jezebel and Absalom spirits, hogging up 95% of your capacity.
Being in true alignment with your true self, calling, and purpose means that the word of God can penetrate our hearts, truly convicting us into transformation and change. We are not just following a feel-good sermon, but pursuing a lifelong journey of post traumatic growth and recovery because we are doing the self-work and introspection that is required.
You are enough. Reclaim your power, soul, and identity. Grab your keys to the kingdom and get your inheritance.
Until next time,
Katina
It’s so easy to point the finger at everybody else. But what about you? What is the toxic dance cycle that you play both with yourself and others? #breakingcycles #trauma #healing #love #freedom
When you’re vulnerable, you’re also open to the wiles of the devil. These wiles include being love-bombed and reeled back in in by your ex-narcissistic partner. Listen to some of these phrases so you’ll know how to protect yourself. #healing #podcast #narcissism
It’s easy to wait and make our move when somebody else makes their move. But that’s not how healing works. You will be waiting until Jesus comes for someone else to get their act together in order for you to walk in the freedom and bond us the crisis promised each and everyone of us.#Freedom #Love #Relationships #healing
Self-righteous narcissists are often hidden in plain sight. They look like responsible, intellectual people, except when you are in close proximity with them. Over time, the mask falls off. It had been falling off over the course of your friendship with him or her, but their intellectual, responsible cover blinded you from seeing them for who they really are: individuals who possess the spirit of toxic jealousy, envy, and eventually, malice. #love #relationship #envy #narcissist #trauma #healing #personalitydisorder
When you hear the term gaslighting, you associate it with the words that people say that throw you into a spiral because of their delusional reality. Gaslighting is actually involving more than that. People gaslight with hopes that it will ruin self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, and self perception and reality overtime #Gaslighting #Love #Freedom #Narcissist #CovertNarcissist #ChristianNarcissist #Relationship
We’ve often heard the phrase:
“No” is a complete sentence.
However, how many of us actually believe it in our hearts, minds, bodies, souls, and spirits?
Once every area of your being is aligned, saying “no” becomes easier than ever. The hardest time will be the first, and each subsequent time gets easier.
When you are in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, your ability to say no is hampered by the narcissistic abuse cycle. You began with the symbiosis period like any other romantic relationship. However, self-differentiation doesn’t occur because of the trauma bonding and soul ties that occur during the love bombing phase of the relationship.
It is not until you reclaim your power, soul, and identity so that you will know that you are enough that you understand the power of no. It is then that you understand the reason why your therapist and every other mental health professional has said: “No is a complete sentence.”
Once you began the healing process, become grounded in your identity, and understand your self-worth, establishing boundaries becomes a byproduct of your work.
And even with all of the self work that you have done, it still becomes difficult to say “No”.
Let’s look at a few reasons:
The first reason why it is hard for you to say no is that you want to control the outcome. Control is an illusion that all of us human beings have to master. We have an outcome in mind whenever a trial and or a difficult situation presents itself.
And thus, in an effort to make sure that the outcome we want is the outcome we get, we start moving things around like we’re playing chess, and a sense of disillusionment about the fact that other people have a right to make their own choices.
And a lot of times, those choices may or may not make us happy.
The second reason that it is hard for you to say no is that you don’t want to risk losing the relationship. The relationships that you have with your friend, family member, coworker, and ministry and business partners are currently working because there is a certain dynamic/pattern/toxic dance that exists between you and the other parties.
And if that pattern of behavior is dysfunctional, more often than not, you telling them “no” poses a change in your relationship status. People enjoy the broken parts of us.
The third reason that it is hard for you to say no is that you are a people pleaser. You don’t want anyone to be upset with your decision. People pleasers go all out “ in the name of love” but they’re really participating in the act of self-abandonment, holding back their true needs and wants in order to keep other people happy.
But no matter what way you look at it, at the end of the day, people are going to do what they are going to do, and we cannot control them. We can only control ourselves and honor what our bodies, souls, and spirits are telling us.
Remember: you are already enough. Reclaim your power, soul, and identity today. Grab your keys to the kingdom and get your inheritance.
Be blessed!
Katina
The Jezebel Spirit is not about the 2-inch splits, makeup, or garments you wear as we were told by older church folk back in the day. It is a gaslighting spirit of control, using anything and anyone, including spiritual practices and rituals itself to further its agenda. Listen in to this podcast episode as I discuss its plan, purpose, and behaviors.
Be blessed!!!