The Art of Healing and Loneliness
One of the main reasons that women don’t heal properly is that they do not like the idea of being alone. Alone with themselves. Alone with their thoughts. Alone with God. Alone with nature. Alone with their bodies. Being alone has a stigma associated with it. “Oh, looky, she doesn’t have a man. What’s wrong with her?”
However, being alone is just what is needed in order for us to move from point A to point B and get to our destination. That destination is the Promised Land of Canaan that God has for each one of us individually and collectively.
What we often don’t realize is that being alone and being lonely is two different things. We are never truly alone because God is always with us. We can be with a group of people and still be lonely. But why? For Several reasons. The first reason is that we may have failed to deal with the emotional loneliness that we experienced in childhood from our family’s love story garden. People were present but unavailable for a variety of reasons, leaving us anxious and clawing for attention from everyone and everything but God. We made mini-gods of people, places, things, and ideas to feed our addictions.
Secondly, when we fail to exhibit vulnerability by sharing our struggles, we don’t get the support that we need to make it through. We take on the role of being everybody else’s savior instead of gaining the true and loving support that we need.
Healing is hard but necessary to gain an adequate assessment of who we really are according to how God created us, not who others have told us according to how they want us to be. This process is called developing our self-concept. Our self-concept gets marred by emotionally immature, narcissistic, and other individuals who have become bitter and resentful about their lives and need someone else to dump their projection and confusion on.
Healing is hard but it’s worth it. Just like getting all the rain in spring enables beautiful flowers to appear, we all become the beautiful flowering trees that God created us to be in the Garden of Eden.
You are enough. Reclaim your power, soul, and identity. Grab your keys to the kingdom and get your inheritance.
Until next time,
Katina