The Brood of Vipers


Vipers are known for having patterns and colors that blend in well when it comes to their surroundings. So, if you are hanging out with your family on a campground, getting ready to go start a fire for marshmallows and warmth, you might ride up on a viper.

Paul was setting up a fire for himself and the other men after being shipwrecked, and instead of picking up firewood sticks, he picked up a viper that hung onto his hand for dear life.

Why are vipers so successful at what they do? They use ambush foraging.

They are the narcissistic individuals who sit and wait for long periods of time to conserve their energy. Because they wait for the perfect time to attack you by surprise, you are destabilized and immobilized in your body, causing a freeze trauma response.

How does this happen?

When they attack you, they inject venom inside of your mind, body, soul and spirit, wreaking havoc on your emotional, psychological, physical, and spiritual being.

Vipers usually hang out in groups like the Pharisees and the Sadducees, waiting to use a second party to entrap the third intended victim. Whenever a viper injects you with their venom, you become the poison container for all of their family’s past and present trials and trauma, the sin of certainty, their Holy Spirit box, and the Leviathan spirit, twisting and turning words around from scriptures, and attacking your motives.

John spoke of the vipers as a brood, meaning that they were a family belonging to Satan, the serpent in the garden of Eden. He knew that the Pharisees and Sadducees, coming to watch him perform baptisms was nothing but a setup for an attack. And if you are not careful, the Pharisees and Sadducees that are in your life will do the same. Their cover is being extremely spiritual/religious, knowing all the rules and regulations, and having an image of being put together. However, their hearts are far from what is being displayed. Double-mindedness, closed-mindedness, and fixed mindsets caused them to perpetuate their legalism.

Catch the next post where I’ll be talking about the python spirit.

Until next time,


The Tree of Knowledge

Satan offered Eve false hope, and she drank the Kool-Aid.

There was only one thing that he promised her would do the trick: the forbidden fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

When you met up with your narcissistic partner, he mimicked Satan, the first narcissist.

Satan offered you false hope, and you drank the Kool-Aid. There was only one thing that he promised would provide this hope: the forbidden man who appeared to you as if he were a tree of knowledge.

Which tree of knowledge will you pull from?: God’s or Satan’s.

Until next time,


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The Cycle of Learning & Knowledge Addiction

You’ve been running on the hamster 🐹 wheel 🛞 for a while. What’s keeping you there? You’re running on LACK.

The Lack Cycle of Love. Approval. Comfort. & Knowledge Addictions.

Your knowledge addiction is reinforcing your comfort addiction. The comfort addiction is reinforcing your approval addiction. The approval addiction is reinforcing your love addiction, and your starting and ending point remains the same.

If you could just watch one more video, read one more book, or listen to one more podcast, you know you’d be ready for action.

Stop lying to yourself.

You’ve been in this “learning” phase for over 10 years now.

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Grow or Go?

Never feel like forcing yourself to stay in something that God has obviously released you from is the best option. As a matter of fact, your growth will do the work for you. When people start seeing you growing after narcissistic abuse, they will make comments about you changing and being different, as if it’s a bad thing. It isn’t. They had gotten too comfortable with the “broken pieces” version of you. Either they will eventually hop on board or leave your life just as quickly as they entered it.

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Be Still And Know

It feels good staying busy from daytime to night time. Go to bed and do it all over again. Keeping busy means being in a constant state of Energizer bunny mode.

We were not made for this. You cannot heal when you won’t be still. Restoration requires revelation. And revelation requires meditation. Simple. Do as this crewneck says. Take a BE STILL and know moment SO YOU CAN HAVE a come to Jesus moment. And be blessed!

Wear it year round on cool nights, or in the fall on cool days.

I know that it is FALL. You are ready to cozy up by bonfires, with books, great movies, and blankets. How about cozying up with empowerment? Flourishing? Resilience? Rooting. Grounded in comfort and the love of the Savior in every piece of clothing that you wear?

THE VALLEY OF GRACE SHOP is open. Check us out. Live in comfort.  LOVE in comfort.  Walk in comfort.  Live in love.

Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Divorce, & Remarriage with Authors Kirk & Debbie Taylor

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Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Divorce, & Remarriage with Authors Kirk & Debbie Taylor

The million dollar question is: Should I stay or should I go? Some people think the answer to the question is obvious. But it is not.

Self gaslighting ⛽️, magical thinking, and refusal to “see” what is really going on will make answering this question even harder.

Add the fact that you are a Christian, and your hands are tied. Why? We’ve been programmed to believe that Christians stay in it no matter how bad it gets. And sadly, this misconception of being a Christian has trickled down from the parents to the children.

Listen in to Kirk and Debbie’s story, and find out how God took two toxic relationships, and turned them into one☝️big story of redemption.



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Mindset, Boundaries, Success, & Toxic Relationships

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We all want that magic formula. What no one tells you is that there isn’t one. Success in any relationship: romantic, business, friendships, or ministry, is a lot of work. Add toxicity to the mix, and you’ve got something on your hands. Valley of Grace Ministries and Timothy Horton GR8 own the licensing and rights to the Valley of Grace song.

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How to Reach Pavel:

Pavel’s Bio:

Pavel Verbnyak is a certified professional speaker (GSF) on personal development, goal-setting, the law of attraction and leadership. He is a success expert, life coach, Vice President of JCI Russia, Brian Tracy Academy’s expert and partner, the founder of “Successful Thinking”, the author of several books, seminars on unlocking human potential and personal efficiency.

Pavel specializes in training and development of individuals and organizations, helping to set and achieve personal and professional goals faster and easier, to eliminate limiting beliefs and fears, increase sales etc.

Pavel Verbnyak is an award-winning speaker and an internationally recognized leader in personal development and peak performance strategies. For over 15 years, he has been teaching entrepreneurs, educators, corporate leaders, and people from all walks of life how to create the life they desire.

He speaks also to corporate and public audiences on the subjects of Personal and Professional Development, including the executives and staff of many of World’s largest corporations. His exciting talks and seminars on Leadership, Selling, Self-Esteem, Goals, Strategy, Creativity and Success Psychology bring about immediate changes and long-term results.

Since 2005 Pavel has been studying the lives of successful people and applied the knowledge and ideas he’s learned into his own life.

He is the graduate of Jack Canfield’s 2014 Train the Trainer live program (USA).

The Transformation:

Pavel will teach you how to get complete control of your time and your life, increase your income, simplify your work, maximize your special talents and abilities, and achieve financial independence.

The maximum amount of audience for Pavel’s speech is more than 1000 people.

He worked with top Russian & international brands: Sberbank, MTS, Russian Railways, Lukoil, Rostelekom, Renault, Volkswagen etc. Consulted famous Russian and CIS top managers. 

Most of Pavel’s core strategies for creating breakthroughs have come from modeling and distilling the strategies of leaders in some of the fastest growing companies in the world. He has used these distinctions to help optimize and grow enterprises to new and more profitable levels.

Pavel lives in Moscow, Russia, where he continually raises the bar on his own potential by increasing and expanding his comfort zone with continued personal and professional development.

Pavel Verbnyak is happily married and has son. He is active in community and national affairs.

He wants to empower you to have a larger vision for your life by connecting to and unleashing the greatness within you.

Pavel’s goal is to help people all over the world achieve their personal, professional, and financial goals faster and easier than ever imagined.

Personality Issues-It’s Just The Way I Am

Our personality is part of what makes us who we are.  

When someone mentions different things to us that involve our personality, we often say, “Well, that’s just the way I am.  My mother was like that.”  

And that is true in a sense. That is the way you are. And your mother may have been the one who had a huge impact on why your personality is the way it is. However, that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t want to work on aspects of our personality that are impeding our growth, next-level assignments, and relationships with ourselves and others in general.

What did Paul say about our right to do things?

“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything.

1 Corinthians 6:12

There are both strengths and weaknesses to any personality.

We have four learned stress responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn.

Let’s take the first personality type of the Enneagram for example:

Type 1:  The Perfectionist 

With this personality type, the fight response looks like expecting perfectionism out of other people when you are under extreme stress or trauma.  And yes, the stress or traumatic event is what caused it.  

Subjectively, a person on the outside looking in may say, “Empathize”.

And yes, empathizing is what we are supposed to do.  Now, look at the situation objectively.

Can you imagine being expected to be perfect when you are in pain as well?

This is where and why partnering up and powering with the Holy Spirit is necessary.  Expecting perfection out of an imperfect human being, particularly during the time of crisis places the individual on the outside in a precarious situation.  Do they interact with the perfectionist, or do they distance themselves until the extreme stress and or traumatic event has passed?

What the perfectionist doesn’t understand at the time is that this fight response of theirs has taken the place of self-care and self-assessment of emotions, needs, etc.

This is not for the purposes of condemnation, but for empathy, knowledge, and understanding how the weaknesses of our personalities affect others so we can learn and grow.

For it is by grace(A) you have been saved,(B) through faith(C)—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works,(D) so that no one can boast.(E)

Ephesians 2:8-9, NIV

Until Next Time,


The Masquerade Party of Lying Prophets, False Intentions, Narcissism, & Disguises Part 2

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The Masquerade Party of Lying Prophets, False Intentions, Narcissism, & Disguises Part 2

The Masquerade Party of Lying Prophets, False Intentions, Narcissism, & Disguises Part 2

Although we all wear masks at one time or another, some of us find ourselves living among the never-ending masquerade party of narcissism. Walking in the spirit, as well as being armored up, enables the weapons formed against us not to prosper.

Grab your fancy dresses 👗and colorful masks, as we open door number three of “The Masquerade Party: Lying Prophets, False Intentions, & Disguises Part 2”. Be blessed!!!

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The Masquerade Party of Lying Prophets, False Intentions, & Disguises Part 1

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The Masquerade Party of Lying Prophets, False Intentions, & Disguises Part 1

Masquerade parties are fun, full of mystery, and drama. The highlights of attending these parties are the costumes, multi-colored masks 🎭, and hors d’oeuvres. The low points of attending these parties 🎉 is enduring the possibility of a belligerent, uninvited guest. Join me as a guest at “ The Masquerade Party of Lying Prophets, False Intentions, & Disguises🥸Part 1”, and see if you can pick out the wolves 🐺 in sheep’s 🐑 clothing.

I own the rights, license, and permission of performing artist, Timothy Horton GR8, to use Valley of Grace as Valley of Grace Ministries’ theme song.

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