Episode 127: Author, Blogger, and TV Personality Kyona Robinson Part 2

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Is it better to be light-skinned or dark-skinned? Have “good hair” or “bad hair”? What is going on with black people bleaching their skin?  Why is it necessary to find “your tribe”?  How does it feel to exist as a black woman?  What does it look like to talk in a professional environment?  Is self-care important? Is there an epidemic of black women marrying incarcerated black men?  What is making black women protect black men inside of their toxic relationships? 

Is it possible to change your circumstances and reclaim your power and identity? If you need a place that is relatable, where you can pull off your masks, be real, dig deep, embrace your hair and skin color, release your emotions, and reveal your true identity and worth as a black woman, then listen to Part 2 of this candid interview between Kyona Robinson and me in a new series of The Valley of Grace Podcast entitled, “The Black Woman Experience:  Talking Through Our Stories” to find out the answers to these questions and more.  Be blessed! #kyonarobinson #authors #blackwomen #blackmarriage #blackrelationships #reclaimyourpowerandidentity #youareenough #blacksuperwoman #blackskin #blackhair

Podcast Topics

  • Black Women Marrying Incarcerated Men
  • Black Relationships
  • Light Skin vs. Dark Skin
  • Good Hair vs. Bad Hair
  • Protections of Black Men
  • Is Self-Care Important?

How To Reach Kyona Robinson:

#kyonarobinson #authors #blackwomen #blackmarriage #blackrelationships #reclaimyourpowerandidentity #youareenough #blacksuperwoman #blackskin
Author & TV Personality Kyona Robinson

Kyona Robinson book information:

Her instagram : kyonalrobinson

Her blog :Kyonalrobinson.com

Facebook: Author Kyona L Robinson Facebook

YouTube: Kyona Robinson

Until next Time,

Katina

Episode 125: An Interview with Coach Isabelle Stephenson

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Prophetic Word!!! Does it mean it’s too late to dream again if you reclaim your power and identity?  What does coaching have to do with reclaiming your power and identity?  What is the relationship between fear and unhealthy relationships?  Do you need confidence in order to be empowered?  What is the correlation between humility, meekness, and fear?  How is having community an art?  Find out the answers to these questions and more as you listen to the interview between Coach Isabelle Stephenson and me on The Valley of Grace Podcast.  Did you miss the last two interviews with Dr. Alice Koech? Catch them here. Be blessed!

Podcast Topics

  • Isabelle’s Life Story
  • Dreaming: Is it too late?
  • Benefits of Coaching
  • Unhealthy Relationships and Fear
  • Empowerment and Confidence
  • Asking Questions
  • Humility & Meekness
  • Fear
  • Seasons of Relationships

Coach Isabelle Stephenson

Isabelle has put together a special gift for my listeners at the following link:

Freebie from Isabelle: Link

How do I contact Isabelle Stephenson?

I am glad that you asked. Isabelle can be reached in the following locations:

Call or write for a free life coaching consultation #732-331-2246

Isabellestephensoncoach@gmail.com

Follow her on instagram: @lifecoachingwithisabelle

Until next time,

Katina

Episode 124: An Interview with Business Coach Dr. Alice Koech-Part 2

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How does daily affirmations change your thought process? How can you make them a part of your life in general?  How does self-blame and limiting beliefs play a role in not enoughness?  Why can’t women just leave toxic relationships?  What role does forgiveness play in healing?  How does learning help us?  Listen to the second part of the interview with business coach Dr. Alice Koech to find out the answers to these questions and many more. Did you miss part 1? You can catch up on that episode right here.

Dr. Alice Koech

How can you reach Dr. Koech?

@dralicekoechcoaching-Instagram

www.drallicekoech.com-Website

alice.koech-Facebook

Podcast Topics

  • Daily Affrimations
  • Self-blame
  • Limiting Beliefs
  • Forgiveness and Healing
  • Should I keep learning?
  • Killing Not enoughness.

Until next time,

Katina

Episode 123: An Interview with Business Coach Dr. Alice Koech-Part 1

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Is there only one reason why women find themselves in unhealthy relationships?  How do I fix my not enoughness?  How should we respond to other people’s pain?  How can knowing how to respond in other people’s pain as well as our own help the grief process in general?  What are the three things that we need in order to feel supported by others?  Do the words that we speak even matter?  Watch Part 1 of this interview between Business Coach Dr. Alice Koech and I to find out the answers to these questions and so much more. Did you miss Sharae Jenkins’ guest post? Catch up right here!  Be blessed!

Dr. Alice Koech

Podcast Topics

  • The Grief Process
  • Why What We Say to People During their Grief Matters
  • 3 Important Things Community Needs to Do
  • Our Words Matter

How can you reach Dr. Koech?

@dralicekoechcoaching-Instagram

www.drallicekoech.com-Website

alice.koech-Facebook

Until next time,

Katina

Episode 122: Interview with Courtney Nalin Part 2

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I hope you enjoyed listening to Part 1 of the conversation between EMS, Coach, & Podcast Host of Imperfectly Pollyanna, Courtney Nalin and I. Today, I have released Part 2. Sometimes you may wonder what role faith in yourself plays in knowing you are enough. Believe it or not, it plays a huge part. It is the determining factor of whether you will continue to go into the crazy cycles of not being good enough, or yield your life and will to God and realize that you have already been prequalified.

Listen to part 2 of the conversation between Courtney and I as she dissects this very topic, and so much more. She goes deep, and that’s what we need to do when it comes to reclaiming our power and identity. Staying on the surface doesn’t yield the end result. Be blessed on this Sunday evening!

Podcast Topics:

  • Is God looking for perfection?
  • Fath in Ourselves
  • Hot Mess Express
  • Gratitude Journal
  • Reclaim your Power & Identity
  • Using Struggles as Stepping Stones
  • Validation from the World
  • Staying on the Mountain
  • EVEN If
  • Let God be God
  • Fix-it Mode
  • God-ordained friendships

Until next time,

Katina

Episode 121: Interview with EMS, Coach, & Podcast Host of Imperfectly Pollyanna Courtney Nalin Part 1

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After going through some of the hardest times in our lives, it’s easy to think that there is no way that we can recover, let alone reclaiming our power and identity. I’m a living witness that it is possible. One day at a time. One hour at a time. And sometimes one minute at a time.

A couple of weeks ago, I sat down in a one-on-one conversation with Courtney Nalin, EMS, Coach, & Podcast Host of Imperfectly Pollyanna. In this interview, she helps us to see that not only can you heal and recover, you can reclaim your power and identity one step at a time because you are enough. Listen in and be blessed!

Podcast Topics:

  • Loss
  • Infertility
  • Toxic Relationships
  • Friendships

Until next time!

What happens after the bombing?-The Relationship Cycle

The question that one might ask themselves is: what happens after the bombing? As stated in our previous post, after the bombing comes the sea of shame. And although you would think your soul’s reaction would be enough to make you stop and think, oftentimes, it doesn’t.

There is a small percentage of the cases where the individual takes a time-out based upon their body, mind, and soul’s reaction to love-bombing. However, 9.9 times out of ten, the reason you were picked as a target in the first place was because of your issues with low self-esteem, low self-worth, poor body image, or a combo of all three.

As sad and unsettling as it may sound, you were picked because you were an easy target to be disarmed and molded into what the other broken person in the toxic relationship wanted you to be. What you haven’t figured out yet, is that you are expected to return the favor.

Not the favor and disarming and molding. The worship.

Love-bombing isn’t done just for the sake of it. It is done to pull you in like nothing else has so you can stay all in. Once you have demonstrated that you are all in, the love-bombing ends. That is too much energy to put into any one person for an extended period of time.

The other person in the toxic relationship wants to be worshipped just like you were. However, the rules for their worship is different. Unlike love-bombing that leaves you in a sea of shame, they want the worship without the shame. You can’t ever give constructive criticism, feedback, or point out any wrongdoing.

Why?

Giving your take on any of these areas means that you are tarnishing the perfect, distorted image of what the other broken person in your toxic/unhealthy relationship has created. And that is a no-no.

The worship that belongs only to God has now gone to man. God never intended that to be.

He made that clear when he gave Moses the ten commandments on the mountaintop.

Somehow, as women, with Satan’s help, we twist around the word of God, making ourselves believe that God has told us to do everything that our husbands want us to do. When “obeying” your husband lies in direct conflict of obeying and worshipping God, we definitely have a problem.

You don’t realize the severity of it because your brokenness of unworthiness, low self-worth, and not enoughness is leading you in making decisions. You, as the wounded person is depending on the other broken person in the relationship to provide the enoughness that you are lacking. But only God can do that.

Until next time,

Katina

Love-bombed! Part 2

In our last post, we discussed what it means to be love-bombed. In this post, Love-bombed! Part 2, we are tackling why we are left swimming in a sea of shame from being love-bombed.

First of all, our bodies are aware of and respond to things that are happening around us before our minds get wind of it. Our heart starts racing, our bodies start shaking or tensing up, and other times our posture starts to shrink as if we are cowering within or trying to brace ourselves.

By the time our minds have caught up with what our bodies already know, we are then able to decide if this is a good thing or bad thing. Having all attention on you may seem like a good thing. However, we must remember that the spiritual energy that accompanies being love-bombed is nothing good.

The energy is toxic. And it is the toxic spiritual energy that causes the reverse of what would be expected to happen.

The response itself is the warning sign. But again, if we are too caught up, we will miss it.

If we are not, it is then that we can stop, reassess the situation, and then use wisdom in whether to move forward.

Nine times out of ten, there is no stopping. No “Be still and know that I am God”. (Psalm 46:10)

You are intoxicated by being love-bombed. Knowing and feeling something is off, but entangled in a web of energy that’s indescribable.

In the next post, we will discuss what usually happens after being love-bombed.

Remember: You are enough. You can reclaim your power and identity at any point in the relationship cycle.

Until next time,

Katina

Love-Bombed!

Ok, so you know that it is normal to crave relationship. You also know that it is normal to enter a new relationship. Knowing these two, one might wonder, then what is the difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship?

There are several differences between the two. In this post, I will discuss the first difference in detail. When you enter an unhealthy relationship, you are immediately “love-bombed.” Love-bombed means you are swept off your feet and over-the-top lavished on. It feels too good to be true. You are given flowers, poetry, words of affirmation, opened doors, lots of teddy bears, gifts, candy, etc.

Everybody knows about you. As a matter of fact, they seem to know more about you than you know about you.

Although this may seem natural, and nothing that should raise concern, it is. You just don’t know that yet. But by the next part you will. What seems to feel good; “this is my trophy, my woman, my display” show soon turns into you feeling like something is off. And not just a little bit. Something feels terribly off. An emotion starts creeping up that you are familiar with, but you can’t place it.

That emotion is shame. You are bathing in it. Next thing you know, you are in the Garden of Eden, and covering yourself with leaves. But why?

That is the all-encompassing question. We will answer that one in the next post. In case you missed the last post, catch up with Enmeshed Here.

Until next time,

Katina

Episode 120: “The Word Healing”-Interview with Cherlyn Decker Part 3

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When you think of the word healing, what comes to mind? Is it all pain, all comfort, all work, or a combination of all three? When it comes to healing, everybody’s journey is different. However, it’s all in the way that we look at it. Listen in on this interview between Cherlyn Decker and I as she gives her take on the subject, as well as some inside fun things about herself. Be blessed!

Podcast Outline Topics

  • Healing In All Its Glory or Not
  • Fun Facts About Cherlyn

Meditational Scripture:

He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.

Psalms 147:3