7 Things Used By Covert Narcissists, Self-Righteous Narcissists, & Limited Worldview People to Block You From the Promised Land Part 2

People will do anything and everything to stop the work of God. Every tactic in the book will be used, including talking about your children and the people who you’ve been called to help, if possible. Nothing and no one is off limits. Listen in to find out what happened in scripture and how this plotting also correlates to what is and has happened to you. Either you will end up moving as God moves, or moving as the crowd moves, and miss out on your calling. #love #narcissist #dysfunctionalfamily

7 Things Used By Covert Narcissists, Self-Righteous Narcissists, & Limited Worldview People to Block You From the Promised Land Part 2

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I Want You Back-The Hoover Maneuver

Being Hoovered by a narcissist means that like a vacuum cleaner, you get sucked back into his web.

You may ask yourself, “How in the world did this happen?” The number one way that it happens is that you have not imposed boundaries, and if you have, Instead of only discussing issues that are pertinent to your kids’ visitation and emotional, mental, physical, and financial health, you begin entertaining conversations that are dealing with your ex-husband/partner and his new narcissistic supply involving their vacations, purchases, and problems.

And, of course, after a while, these conversations will eventually end with, “Girl, you know I still love you.” Translation: I want you back. Oooh. Oooh. Oooh. Yeah.

The person with the spirit of narcissism feels you out by first of all checking to see if you will entertain the conversations. If you entertain the conversations, it lets him know that he still holds a significant place in your heart and soul.

Secondly, because you were with him so long, and you are freshly healing, he still remembers what it took in order for you to take the bait and get hooked in line and sinker, so to speak.

Some women also get pulled in by lying to themselves, and pretending that they are looking out for their adult children by calling their narcissistic ex up to discuss the events that are going on in their lives. Unless it’s a literally a matter of life and death, there is really no need to have contact with a narcissistic ex where adult children are involved. It’s a coverup for wanting to see what’s going on in his life with the new supply.

It’s another ploy from Satan to send you straight back to Egypt.

One of the biggest things that plays a factor in you being Hoovered is the fact that you are not engaging in disillusionment management. This means that you have become disillusioned with the healing process, thinking that you are going to drive through McDonald’s and pick up one year of healing For 50 years of trauma. It just doesn’t work like that.

When you think of healing as more of an onion, where each layer has to be taken off, and the fact that each layer has levels to it, and also, remembering that our brains takes 63 days in order to develop new neurons, it helps you to give yourself, grace, compassion, kindness, and truth for the situation.

Pharaoh attempted to Hoover the Israelites back to Egypt. He even asked himself, “what have I done? “ once he let them go.

Laban attempted to Hoover Jacob back to Padan-Aram. God intervened with Laban, letting him know that he had better not say anything to Jacob, good or bad.

God new Laban’s heart and his MO. And just like the narcissistic knows your MO from when you were in the relationship with him, you know his as well.

Having an understanding, and or new knowledge of narcissism doesn’t mean that we can’t serve as the Holy Spirit for the narcissist. That is God’s job. And trying to take over God’s job will be placing yourself right back in the position you were in before.

Each time that you get Hoovered and go back into a relationship with a narcissist, the abuse is more intense, and the cycles are shorter in length.

Remember, you’re already enough. Learning about narcissism does not equal going back to rescue the narcissist.

Learning about the narcissist does not equal telling him that he is a narcissist, and is able to get some help for his problem.

Learning about the narcissist gives you the tools to educate, empower, and impact your emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, intellectual, relational, sexual, and financial health, and move forward.

Grab your keys to the kingdom and get your inheritance.

Relationships-Who’s Doing the Watering?

The growing requirements of a seed is evident. Our relationships are the same way.

We cannot expect them to grow when they are one-sided. If we are sowing all of the seeds, there is one-sided reaping that will happen. When we don’t have the true light and knowledge of God‘s word to guide us, we get caught up in false doctrine, twisted theology, and limited worldviews.

When we are not checking to make sure that the soil of the person’s heart is healthy, we leave ourselves open to be injured over and over again. When we are not assessing the temperature on the thermometer showing that frigid temps have taken over, we keep trying to hope and pray that some kind of way, our relationships will get watered without the other party doing the work.

What, after all, is Apollos? And what is Paul? Only servants, through whom you came to believe—as the Lord has assigned to each his task.

I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow.

The one who plants and the one who waters have one purpose, and they will each be rewarded according to their own labor. For we are co-workers in God’s service; you are God’s field, God’s building.

1 Corinthians 3:6-9

Relationships-Who’s Doing the Watering?

We stay in places, ideas, things, and relationships that have dried up a long time ago because we fail to obey the promptings of the Holy Spirit, our instinct, intuition, and discernment, along with the evidence of the countenance of the individual changing.

We want to idolize the history. We want to idolize whatever small amount of value the individual may be giving us. We want to idolize the good old times. But when we idolize the good old times, the new thing that God is doing is what we miss out on.

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.

Isaiah 43:28-19

When it comes to being in relationships with narcissistic individuals, several things will always be present: spiritual blindness, arrogance based on insecurity, hardened hearts, and toxic envy, and jealousy. This means that the empathic, prophetic side of you will always be at war with the demonic side of them seeking to kill, steal, and destroy everything in its path.

At the end of the day, we have to ask ourselves, do we want to live in dry land forever ?

And it came to pass after a while, that the brook dried up, because there had been no rain in the land.

And the word of the Lord came unto him, saying,

Arise, get thee to Zarephath, which belongeth to Zidon, and dwell there: behold, I have commanded a widow woman there to sustain thee.

1 Kings 17:7-9

Until next time,

Be blessed

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The Tree of Knowledge

Satan offered Eve false hope, and she drank the Kool-Aid.

There was only one thing that he promised her would do the trick: the forbidden fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

When you met up with your narcissistic partner, he mimicked Satan, the first narcissist.

Satan offered you false hope, and you drank the Kool-Aid. There was only one thing that he promised would provide this hope: the forbidden man who appeared to you as if he were a tree of knowledge.

Which tree of knowledge will you pull from?: God’s or Satan’s.

Until next time,


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The Cycle of Learning & Knowledge Addiction

You’ve been running on the hamster 🐹 wheel 🛞 for a while. What’s keeping you there? You’re running on LACK.

The Lack Cycle of Love. Approval. Comfort. & Knowledge Addictions.

Your knowledge addiction is reinforcing your comfort addiction. The comfort addiction is reinforcing your approval addiction. The approval addiction is reinforcing your love addiction, and your starting and ending point remains the same.

If you could just watch one more video, read one more book, or listen to one more podcast, you know you’d be ready for action.

Stop lying to yourself.

You’ve been in this “learning” phase for over 10 years now.

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Healing with the Holy Spirit

The Holy Spirit lives inside of us to comfort, convict, teach, reveal, and sanctify.

When we’re in trouble, we turn to everything and everyone but the Holy Spirit. Speaking directly to the Holy Spirit who resides inside of us enables him to activate. He won’t force himself on us. For he is a gentleman. When it comes to being comforted, we prefer foods, drugs, alcohol, sex, television shows, shopping, and anything else that we can get our hands on. The problem with these alternatives is that they keep our minds, hearts, and souls tied and entangled in bondage.

We forget that we have a built-in comforter. That built-in comforter is there to wrap around us like the feeling of down feathers.

How many times do we forget to partner with the Holy Spirit when it comes to emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, financial, and relational healing? We want to be self-sufficient instead of God-sufficient. Self-sufficiency leads to pride, technology addictions, burn out, and disillusionment.

We forget to tap into the Holy Spirit because we tapped into our former partners portraying the angel of light, who he himself were infected with the spirit of narcissism. Thus, we think the answer is now tapping into ourselves, and not needing anybody. This is where we’ve got it wrong.

Healing from narcissistic abuse is a lot of work. And not only is it a lot of work, it requires a lot of energy. Our minds and bodies are connected. Thus, as we are pouring out all of the massive thoughts that are in our minds, we are also pouring out all of the massive memories stored within the cells of our bodies.

When we tap into all that God has given us for our inheritance, we are truly using our keys to the kingdom here on earth.

Questions to ponder:

What are some new and undiscovered ways in which you can see the Holy Spirit?

What are some ways that you kept yourself from the Holy Spirit?

How did you learn to let go of your idea of the Holy Spirit box, carrying him around like an object that needs to be contained?  Or, have you surrendered to him being unleashed in every area of your life?

Episode 138: 8 Things You Must Do When Dealing With Your Narcissistic Ex During the Holidays

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Episode 138: 8 Things You Must Do When Dealing With Your Narcissistic Ex During the Holidays

Who wants to deal with drama during the holidays? No one. We all want to live in peace and happiness, so to speak. Even if, as we talked about before, that peace and happiness is stemming from a false sense of peace.

There is still a desire. When you deal with the spirit of manipulation, namely, narcissism, during the holidays, it can turn your world upside down. Today, I will discuss several different things you must do in order to make that load lighter, and still be able to enjoy the holidays.

Until next time,