We often think that it is our Christian duty to stay in that toxic relationship, fix the other person in the relationship, and control the outcome of that toxic relationship. That’s not our job, but somehow we take on these burdens and more.
When we lose our voices, we put up with anything. People-pleasing comes into play, self-sabotaging our health, and the lack of boundaries comes in, and unfortunately, to our own detriment. Listen 🎧 in to Christine James and I as we dissect toxic relationships, mindset, magical thinking, and avoidance.
A few weeks ago, I had a taste for some greens, fried chicken, corn bread, sweet potatoes, and macaroni and cheese. Not only that, but I wanted to eat it old-school, coming straight from the South, with your fingers style. But guess what? I didn’t feel like cooking. Yep. I could have tried to search for a local restaurant that served soul food. And indeed, I may have found one. However, when it comes to soul fool, and any other meal, my best bet is to cook the food myself. That way I can add or subtract ingredients according to my own dietary restrictions.
I did end up cooking the food. And man, oh man, it was good.
Initially, I had the desire for the food, but not the desire to do the work. This presented a problem. Although I didn’t want the work, I wanted the end result.
When it comes to reclaiming our power and identity so that we can create an empowered new chapter of life for ourselves, it can be very tempting to avoid the work. Skip over Saturday. Go straight to Sunday. But Saturday is the most important part. Saturday is the process. The learning. The growing. The stretching. The hard work that brings resilience and perspective. Listen in to this week’s podcast to find out what happens when you skip over Saturday. Be blessed!