A vacuum cleaner sucks in excess, dirt, particles, etc. You are not dirt or a particle. So, the question that remains is, “How did you manage to get sucked back in by the #narcissist ?
The Love ❤️ and Freedom Toxic Relationship Recovery Coach
Everywhere you turn, there is pestilence in the land. The pestilence that I speak of is the one that started way back in the garden of Eden. It’s called #narcissism. It’s infecting our homes, schools, workplaces, and churches. When the infection shows up in the Body of Christ, we are often bamboozled. Why? It doesn’t look the way we thought it would. Therefore, we ignore it. Or even worse, we play with it, telling it to have a seat at our table as it steals, kills, and destroys every area of our power, SOUL, and identity. #love #loveandfreedom #narcissist #toxicrelationships #toxicchurch
Do you know what gaslighting is? Have you ever experienced gaslighting yourself? Did you know that there is more than one kind of gaslighting? Yes, I know. It sounds like a lot. And it is. But with the help of God’s word, we will dissect the ins and outs of Freedomology, gaslighting, and how to heal and get your life back. #gaslighting #Katinahorton #toxicrelationships #youareenough
Campaigns require a lot of work. Smear campaigns require even more work. They are the favorite of the narcissist once he leaves you. But think about it, whenever you are trying to ruin someone else’s life, it’s not coming from a good place. It’s going to require a lot of effort. #toxicrelationships #relationships
We always want to believe the best when it comes to other people’s intentions. However, there are some instances in life where it literally is what it is. Ignoring a person’s track record means literally running into danger on purpose. Ignoring how a person operates in their homes is literally running into danger on purpose. #love #freedom #relationships
Some people are gamers. I’m not talking about video gamers. I’m talking about people who love to run games on people for their own benefit and pleasure. Beware of the moment you see someone’s countenance change. Waiting around to see what will happen is only going to set you up to be destroyed emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, intellectually, socially, and relationally. #love #narcissist #narcissism
When it comes to the behavior of a person with a spirit of narcissism, it feels easier to place the blame on them for every single thing that happens in life. However, there is a part that everyone else plays in the theater production. Triangulation is one of them. Listen in to see where you are taking the bait and exacerbating the problem, and or being a party to abuse by proxy. #narcissist #toxicrelationships #triangulation
Why won’t you set boundaries? This is a question that someone may have asked you recently.
The answer is not a one size fit all. One reason may be fear of being alone and rejected. Another reason may be lack of housing.
A spirit of unworthiness can also be the culprit.
When you possess a spirit of unworthiness, you have a belief system of not being worthy enough. Thus, if you believe you are unworthy, you will not value your time, body, and soul.
And as a domino effect, when we don’t value our time, body, and soul, other people won’t either. They will rip through our bodies and souls with trauma like nobody’s business. Why? Either they don’t care or don’t have the ability.
The people who don’t care are walking around hurting other people in order to hurt themselves. We mirror our feelings about ourselves onto others. They are the group of personality disordered and spirit of narcissism and narcissistic tendencies group.
This group have wounds that are drowning in shame and insecurities around their childhoods and everything involved in their upbringing.
The people who don’t have the ability also walk around hurting other people. The difference is that it’s unintentional due to emotional immaturity, limiting beliefs, limited worldview, resources, skills, lies they believe about themselves and others, false concepts about love, etc.
We can’t make either group have a come to Jesus because love involves freedom. The moment that we X out freedom, we have control. And we can barely make ourselves do what we need to do.
This group also needs healing by going back to their family’s love story garden, dismantling the lies and limiting beliefs that led to the limited worldviews/strongholds.
When we stop being curious about God’s character, and then ourselves, we stop being curious about others. This leads to the inability group doing whatever they need to do to unknowingly make sure they never release the stronghold through confirmation bias.
We are responsible for giving ourselves what we need.
Although it doesn’t feel or seem right, it’s nobody else’s responsibility to understand and give us what we need.
God loves us, enabling us to love ourselves, and spread this love over to others. Taking responsibility for our own needs and issues is part of loving others.
Until next time,
Katina
It seems easier said than done when it comes to dealing with people and relationships. However, when we know what to look for and how to react in those situations, our minds, bodies, souls, and spirits can be better prepared for attack, and remove ourselves accordingly. DARVO (denial, attack, reverse victim and offender) is no joke. It’s gaslighting on steroids.
If you are not prepared, it will leave you in a FOG of fear, obligation, and guilt. When we choose to use DARVO instead of pressing into the pain, DARVO becomes our default operating system for every point of communication that we have with other people. DARVO means you’re saying “I value darkness over light.” Listen in. #love #narcissist #freedom The Love ❤️ and Freedom Toxic Relationship Recovery Coach
One of the hardest things to do is to get to the point of letting go of people, places, things, and ideas no longer serving us.
Two of the main culprits is history and value. You’ve known this friend since high school. Your parents went to school together. You joined the same sorority in college.
But does that mean that this person is the one who has been called to be in your future?
Some of the questions that you can ask yourself when it comes to deciding what needs letting go are the following:
Where am I now?
What are my values?
Where are they now?
What are their values?
What is the mission and vision of my calling?
Does this person, place, thing, or idea align with my values, vision, and mission?
After answering these questions, the truth is what will really often surprise you.
We sabotage our calling when our daily habits, routines, and relationships are incongruent with our mission and vision.
Healing after narcissistic abuse requires letting go of the people, places, things, and ideas/concepts that reinforce a slavery mindset and limited worldview.
Remember, slavery mindset means that you are in Energizer bunny mode 24/7. God solved this mindset and way of living by instituting Sabbath.
The more we open our minds to curiosity about people, places, things, and ideas, the more we can begin to eliminate the limited worldview stemming from our family’s love story garden, and reinforced by other people, places, things, and ideas along the way, and adopt God’s worldview, solely based on his abundance, sovereignty, and ownership of the world.
Until next time,
Katina