Episode 48: Helping Someone During Grief

The Valley of Grace Podcast
The Valley of Grace Podcast
Episode 48: Helping Someone During Grief

Podcast Show Notes

grief, life, death, trauma, compounded trauma, Job, psychology, friends, consolation, empathy, sympathy, pain competition, katina horton, healing our brokenness, sadness
Photo by Matthew Henry

Helping Someone During Grief Podcast Outline

  • Symptoms of Grief
  • Job and his Grief
  • Right and Wrong Things to Say or Do During Grief

Reflection Questions:

What are some of the cliche terms that you have said when you tried consoling someone who was grieving?

Did you say these terms to avoid feeling the other person’s pain, or in a rush for the other person to feel better?

What are alternative words that can be said to someone who is suffering?

Do you have pain competitions with others when they are grieving in order to make them have a reality check, or yourself feel better because you feel that you have it worse than them?

What changes can you make to insure that people feel loved during their time of grief?

Empathy, Empathy

A few days ago, I wrote a poem entitled “The Shame Game”.  You can find that one here.   Today, I have another poem dealing with emotional health, and it is entitled, “Empathy, Empathy”.


Empathy, Empathy

It’s not the same as sympathy.



I understand just what you’re feeling.

“Not sorry for”,

It’s not the willing.

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I sit with you.

You sit with me.

It’s empathy.

Now, can’t you see?


Oh, yes I feel just what you feel.

It’s not a matter of the will.


I will not rush your pain at all.

In life we all must feel the fall.


I laugh with you.

You laugh with me.

We cry and cry.

Till tears are free.


Empathy, Empathy

It’s not the same as sympathy.


Bible Verses on Empathy

1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.

 Hebrews 10:24-25 And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.

Ephesians 4: 32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Galatians 6:2 Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.