When we don’t like who and how God created and designed us to be, it will be an all-time war until we have a come to Jesus moment, and then accept ourselves for who we are. We expect other people to be just like us. Contort to what we want. Be pumped out of a factory, so to speak. God created all of us differently, and when we honor and remember the needs and priorities of our unique design, we fair better.
We want to feel good all the time, but is this realistic? Therapist and Relationship Coach Cinthia Hiett states that the way we handle conflict and emotions is a reflection of our emotional maturity level. When meanness, anger, jealousy, envy, arrogance, hatred, and malice hits your heart, mind, soul, and spirit, so does disease and venom.
The Journey represents unresolved trauma, undealt with brokenness, wounds, disappointment, discontentment, disillusionment, despair, the LACK cycle of addictions, and the pit. Your journey represents the 3 part anointing of God the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit on your uniquely designed destiny with your name on it.
Joseph took The Journey to elevation.
David’s 3 part anointing was called “your journey” to elevation.
Both are necessary.
Both are difficult.
Both require testing.
Both require investing.
How badly you want your journey will determine how well you tackle The Journey.
When you choose to ignore the Sabbath, you choose to become friends with control.
Being in the driver seat of control means that God is not even riding shotgun. As a matter of fact, you have placed him somewhere in the trunk.
As humans we believe that our solutions are better than God’s. This disillusionment and tunnel vision focus leads to bondage. And in turn, this bondage leads to coming up with false concepts about God and his love for us.
Our addiction to being in the driver seat means that we value:
Toxicity over purification
Control over trust
Slavery our freedom
Harmful over beneficial
Because we focus on what we have a right to do. And Paul tackled this clearly:
1 Corinthians 6:12 NIV
“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything.
The narcissist wants to let you go. But then again, he doesn’t. He also thinks that for some reason you’re not smart enough to understand his patterns of behavior. You’re no Boo Boo the fool, even with the gaslighting. Let’s dive in to part 2. #toxicrelationships #loveandfreedom #katinahorton
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You’ve been running on the hamster wheel for a while. What’s keeping you there? You’re running on LACK.
The Lack Cycle of Love. Approval. Comfort. & Knowledge Addictions.
Your knowledge addiction is reinforcing your comfort addiction. The comfort addiction is reinforcing your approval addiction. The approval addiction is reinforcing your love addiction, and your starting and ending point remains the same.
If you could just watch one more video, read one more book, or listen to one more podcast, you know you’d be ready for action.
Stop lying to yourself.
You’ve been in this “learning” phase for over 10 years now.
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The Holy Spirit lives inside of us to comfort, convict, teach, reveal, and sanctify.
When we’re in trouble, we turn to everything and everyone but the Holy Spirit. Speaking directly to the Holy Spirit who resides inside of us enables him to activate. He won’t force himself on us. For he is a gentleman. When it comes to being comforted, we prefer foods, drugs, alcohol, sex, television shows, shopping, and anything else that we can get our hands on. The problem with these alternatives is that they keep our minds, hearts, and souls tied and entangled in bondage.
We forget that we have a built-in comforter. That built-in comforter is there to wrap around us like the feeling of down feathers.
How many times do we forget to partner with the Holy Spirit when it comes to emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, financial, and relational healing? We want to be self-sufficient instead of God-sufficient. Self-sufficiency leads to pride, technology addictions, burn out, and disillusionment.
We forget to tap into the Holy Spirit because we tapped into our former partners portraying the angel of light, who he himself were infected with the spirit of narcissism. Thus, we think the answer is now tapping into ourselves, and not needing anybody. This is where we’ve got it wrong.
Healing from narcissistic abuse is a lot of work. And not only is it a lot of work, it requires a lot of energy. Our minds and bodies are connected. Thus, as we are pouring out all of the massive thoughts that are in our minds, we are also pouring out all of the massive memories stored within the cells of our bodies.
When we tap into all that God has given us for our inheritance, we are truly using our keys to the kingdom here on earth.
Questions to ponder:
What are some new and undiscovered ways in which you can see the Holy Spirit?
What are some ways that you kept yourself from the Holy Spirit?
How did you learn to let go of your idea of the Holy Spirit box, carrying him around like an object that needs to be contained? Or, have you surrendered to him being unleashed in every area of your life?
Trials, trauma, abandonment, and hardship are all markers for an orphan spirit. With the help of the Lord, and reclamation of our identity in Christ, God can restore all the years the locusts have eaten.
Just like David restored Mephibosheth’s inheritance and identity in his family’s lineage, God restored Shebra’s inheritance and identity in him, opening her eyes to his promises, and seating her with him in heavenly places. Listen in to this candid interview between Shebra Williams and I as she takes you on a journey of grace, hope, forgiveness, and redemption. Be blessed!
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One of the most important things that you will have to do on your journey of healing from Narcissistic Abuse is mastering the art of giving yourself permission.
You need permission to heal, permission to feel, permission to reveal, and permission to not be okay .
Permission to heal means that you acknowledge that the only way to get from point A to point Z is to go under construction . Going around the healing has played out. And getting the five dollar fill-ups ️ has reached its max.
Permission to feel means that you are acknowledging the fact that suppressing and ignoring your feelings are no longer working out for you.
If anything, it has kept you on a merry-go-round of coping mechanisms and dysfunctional behavior.
Any time that we suppress and ignore, it leaves our emotional , mental, physical , and spiritual systems out of whack, and needing to release the emotions through some form or another, even if that form is unhealthy behavior.
A lot has happened. And just like it took several years for you to get to the state that you are in, it will take several years for you to get to your true self.
I don’t say old self because the old you has been using the operating system entitled, I’m not enough.
The new you reveals your true self, using the “His Way” operating system, and the “Daughter of the King “ software.
What are the features of the “His Way” operating system?
This operating system comes with a 100% money back guarantee.
When you purchase this new operating system, the “Daughter of the King ” software is included.
The perks to using this software are the following:
Your birthright inheritance
Keys to the kingdom
A free crown
And a lifetime access to the Kingdom of God
The only thing about this deal is that you must do your part, knowing that God will do his.
God has promised us a life of abundance. However, we must participate in the process.This is often the part that causes us to throw in the towel.
Just like getting groceries from the grocery store requires you to get in your car and drive for the end product, healing requires you to do your part to get to where God wants you to be.
Check out the next post on healing from Narcissistic Abuse where we will do an in-depth study of dealing with grief.
Do you want to get to the good stuff? I know I do. We want a magic pill for everything. Forget about the healing and the pain. Later for that. It sounds like the perfect plan. However, if your plan is to go from where you are now, to where you want to be, skipping over the pain will only take you back to where you are now. It may seem counterintuitive. However, the only way to the other side is through. As Jennifer put it in this episode: “Healing is a choice.” Creating an empowered new chapter of life requires healing from past hurts. And when you are healed, you gain resilience and perspective that you couldn’t have gained otherwise. Listen to the last part of this series between Jennifer and I as we dissect healing, our need for instant gratification, not enoughness and so much more.