The Cycle of Learning & Knowledge Addiction

You’ve been running on the hamster 🐹 wheel 🛞 for a while. What’s keeping you there? You’re running on LACK.

The Lack Cycle of Love. Approval. Comfort. & Knowledge Addictions.

Your knowledge addiction is reinforcing your comfort addiction. The comfort addiction is reinforcing your approval addiction. The approval addiction is reinforcing your love addiction, and your starting and ending point remains the same.

If you could just watch one more video, read one more book, or listen to one more podcast, you know you’d be ready for action.

Stop lying to yourself.

You’ve been in this “learning” phase for over 10 years now.

Email me to start your Love & Freedom Toxic Relationship Recovery Program Without Financial Roadblocks today.

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Healing with the Holy Spirit

The Holy Spirit lives inside of us to comfort, convict, teach, reveal, and sanctify.

When we’re in trouble, we turn to everything and everyone but the Holy Spirit. Speaking directly to the Holy Spirit who resides inside of us enables him to activate. He won’t force himself on us. For he is a gentleman. When it comes to being comforted, we prefer foods, drugs, alcohol, sex, television shows, shopping, and anything else that we can get our hands on. The problem with these alternatives is that they keep our minds, hearts, and souls tied and entangled in bondage.

We forget that we have a built-in comforter. That built-in comforter is there to wrap around us like the feeling of down feathers.


How many times do we forget to partner with the Holy Spirit when it comes to emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, financial, and relational healing? We want to be self-sufficient instead of God-sufficient. Self-sufficiency leads to pride, technology addictions, burn out, and disillusionment.

We forget to tap into the Holy Spirit because we tapped into our former partners portraying the angel of light, who he himself were infected with the spirit of narcissism. Thus, we think the answer is now tapping into ourselves, and not needing anybody. This is where we’ve got it wrong.

Healing from narcissistic abuse is a lot of work. And not only is it a lot of work, it requires a lot of energy. Our minds and bodies are connected. Thus, as we are pouring out all of the massive thoughts that are in our minds, we are also pouring out all of the massive memories stored within the cells of our bodies.

When we tap into all that God has given us for our inheritance, we are truly using our keys to the kingdom here on earth.

Questions to ponder:


What are some new and undiscovered ways in which you can see the Holy Spirit?

What are some ways that you kept yourself from the Holy Spirit?

How did you learn to let go of your idea of the Holy Spirit box, carrying him around like an object that needs to be contained?  Or, have you surrendered to him being unleashed in every area of your life?

Toxicity, Homelessness, Narcissistic Abuse, and A Story of Redemption

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Toxicity, Homelessness, Narcissistic Abuse, and A Story of Redemption

How does God reach out to you in the midst of abuse, homelessness, and toxicity?  One day at a time.  

Travel 🧳back in time with me and Author & Speaker 🔈 Sunshine Griffin as she unfolds her story of redemption, and how leaving home at thirteen turned into God’s saving grace.

#story #healing #narcabuse #narcissisticabuse #narcissists #narcissism

Abandonment, Trauma, Toxic Relationships, Healing, and a Story of Redemption

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Trials, trauma, abandonment, and hardship are all markers for an orphan spirit. With the help of the Lord, and reclamation of our identity in Christ, God can restore all the years the locusts have eaten.

Just like David restored Mephibosheth’s inheritance and identity in his family’s lineage, God restored Shebra’s inheritance and identity in him, opening her eyes to his promises, and seating her with him in heavenly places. Listen in to this candid interview between Shebra Williams and I as she takes you on a journey of grace, hope, forgiveness, and redemption. Be blessed!

I own the rights, license, and permission of performing artist, Timothy Horton GR8, to use Valley of Grace as Valley of Grace Ministries’ theme song.

#story#toxicrelationships#healing

How to Reach Shebra Williams:

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ShebraRhianna-SpiritTruth21

Tiktok: @queenshebrarhianna

Healing After Narcissistic Abuse: Give Yourself Permission

One of the most important things that you will have to do on your journey of healing from Narcissistic Abuse is mastering the art of giving yourself permission.

You need permission to heal, permission to feel, permission to reveal, and permission to not be okay ✅.

Permission to heal means that you acknowledge that the only way to get from point A to point Z is to go under construction 🚧. Going around 🚘 the healing has played out. And getting the five dollar fill-ups ⛽️ has reached its max.

Permission to feel means that you are acknowledging the fact that suppressing and ignoring your feelings are no longer working out for you.

If anything, it has kept you on a merry-go-round of coping mechanisms and dysfunctional behavior.

Any time that we suppress and ignore, it leaves our emotional 😭 , mental, physical 🏃🏿‍♀️, and spiritual 🙏🏿 systems out of whack, and needing to release the emotions through some form or another, even if that form is unhealthy 🤒 behavior.

A lot has happened. And just like it took several years for you to get to the state that you are in, it will take several years for you to get to your true self.

I don’t say old self because the old you has been using the operating system entitled, I’m not enough.

The new you reveals your true self, using the “His Way” operating system, and the “Daughter of the King 👑 “ software.

What are the features of the “His Way” operating system?

  • Healing ❤️‍🩹
  • Identity
  • Self-worth
  • With
  • Affirmations &
  • Yielding

This operating system comes with a 100% money back guarantee.

When you purchase this new operating system, the “Daughter of the King 👑” software is included.

The perks to using this software are the following:

  • Your birthright inheritance
  • Keys 🔑 to the kingdom
  • A free crown 👸
  • And a lifetime access to the Kingdom of God

The only thing about this deal is that you must do your part, knowing that God will do his.

God has promised us a life of abundance. However, we must participate in the process.This is often the part that causes us to throw in the towel.

Just like getting groceries from the grocery store requires you to get in your car and drive for the end product, healing requires you to do your part to get to where God wants you to be.

Check out the next post on healing from Narcissistic Abuse where we will do an in-depth study of dealing with grief.

Until next time,

Katina

Episode 117: Healing is a Choice: An Interview with Jennifer Ramirez-Part 3

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Episode 117: Healing is a Choice: An Interview with Jennifer Ramirez-Part 3
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Do you want to get to the good stuff?  I know I do.  We want a magic pill for everything. Forget about the healing and the pain.  Later for that.  It sounds like the perfect plan. However, if your plan is to go from where you are now, to where you want to be, skipping over the pain will only take you back to where you are now. It may seem counterintuitive. However, the only way to the other side is through.  As Jennifer put it in this episode: “Healing is a choice.”  Creating an empowered new chapter of life requires healing from past hurts.  And when you are healed, you gain resilience and perspective that you couldn’t have gained otherwise.  Listen to the last part of this series between Jennifer and I as we dissect healing, our need for instant gratification, not enoughness and so much more.

Podcast Outline

  • Healing
  • Choices
  • Resilience
  • Flourishing
  • Instant Gratification
  • Not Enoughness
  • Fun Things about Jennifer

Until next time,

Katina

Episode 116: An Interview with Jennifer Ramirez -Part 2

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Episode 116: An Interview with Jennifer Ramirez -Part 2
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Next in line to our own brokenness, the number one reason women go from one unhealthy relationship to the next is the fear of being alone. The unspoken rule becomes “I gotta have a man.” And when we follow this rule, and not give ourselves sufficient time to heal, we continue the unhealthy relationship patterns of behavior. Space, time, and stillness gives us clarity, discernment, and the ability to hear God’s voice. However, the craving for a new physical relationship often outweighs the cravings in our hearts for God. Listen to the second part of the interview between Jennifer Ramirez and I to hear more on this topic along with why women often fall victim to narcissistic relationships.

An Interview with Jennifer Ramirez Part 2 Podcast Outline Topics

  • The Unhealthy Relationship Cycle
  • Breaking Free
  • Knowing Your Worth
  • Dealing With Our Brokenness
  • Having a Come to Jesus Moment
  • The Loneliness Factor
  • The Perfect Ingredient for a Narcissist
  • Stepping out in Faith

Stay tuned for Part 3. Interview with Founder & Executive Director of &Rise Jennifer Ramirez

In the meantime, check out Jennifer Ramirez’s website so that you are familiar with all of the services that she has to offer.

Until next time,

Katina Horton

Episode 115: Interview with Founder & Executive Director of &Rise Jennifer Ramirez-Part 1

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The Valley of Grace Podcast
Episode 115: Interview with Founder & Executive Director of &Rise Jennifer Ramirez-Part 1
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Have you ever said the following: “Why am I finding myself in the same situation? I need a new man, a new job, and a new house.”? If that sounds like you, then listen to this episode between Jennifer and I as we unpack some of the things that are holding us back. And the answer is not what you think.

Interview with Jennifer Ramirez Podcast Topics:

Stay tuned for Part 2. Interview with Founder & Executive Director of &Rise Jennifer Ramirez

In the meantime, check out Jennifer Ramirez’s website so that you are familiar with all of the services that she has to offer.

Until next time,

Katina Horton

Episode 114: Juneteenth Celebration

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For the first time in our nation’s history, Juneteenth has been adopted as a national holiday. We still have a long way to go. However, as we already know, creating an empowered new chapter of life means taking any kind of step forward, no matter how small they may be.

In order for us to move forward in our relationships, and in our country in general, certain things have to be there to set the stage. Can you imagine a film director having the video personnel to start recording a movie without the props in place? It would be a hot mess. In order to move forward in our relationships, we have to build them upon a foundation of truth. Today’s recording is meant to inspire, motivate, and challenge you to figure out where you will stand when the film director says, “Action!”

Happy Juneteenth!

Until next time,

Katina

The Relationship Cycle-Entering the Door-Part 3

As I stated in my previous post, there are certain things that are normal when you are first starting off in any relationship. Wanting to do everything that another person wants to do is normal when you are in love; and/or if it’s not a romantic relationship. You want to appear likeable and agreeable. Right?

What happens when the honeymoon phase of these relationships are over? What happens when both parties start to exert their likes/dislikes? And even more importantly, what happens when we ignore our own needs, and are so caught up in the needs of the other person? Yes, these are a lot of questions to ponder.

The truth of the matter is, if we do not work at keeping our own individual identity in tact, then we become involved with what psychologists call enmeshment, and/or codependency. The thing about it is that these two situations do not happen over night. It is kind of like the frog in boiling water. Our own childhood wounds and insecurities, along with that of the other person, play a huge part in whether or not these new identities develop.

We will dive deeper into these two areas in the next post. Would love to hear your feedback on how you shifted from the honeymoon phase of your different relationships in order to take the relationship to the next level.

Be blessed!

Until next time,

Katina