Relationships-Who’s Doing the Watering?

The growing requirements of a seed is evident. Our relationships are the same way.

We cannot expect them to grow when they are one-sided. If we are sowing all of the seeds, there is one-sided reaping that will happen. When we don’t have the true light and knowledge of God‘s word to guide us, we get caught up in false doctrine, twisted theology, and limited worldviews.

When we are not checking to make sure that the soil of the person’s heart is healthy, we leave ourselves open to be injured over and over again. When we are not assessing the temperature on the thermometer showing that frigid temps have taken over, we keep trying to hope and pray that some kind of way, our relationships will get watered without the other party doing the work.

What, after all, is Apollos? And what is Paul? Only servants, through whom you came to believe—as the Lord has assigned to each his task.

I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow.

The one who plants and the one who waters have one purpose, and they will each be rewarded according to their own labor. For we are co-workers in God’s service; you are God’s field, God’s building.

1 Corinthians 3:6-9

Relationships-Who’s Doing the Watering?

We stay in places, ideas, things, and relationships that have dried up a long time ago because we fail to obey the promptings of the Holy Spirit, our instinct, intuition, and discernment, along with the evidence of the countenance of the individual changing.

We want to idolize the history. We want to idolize whatever small amount of value the individual may be giving us. We want to idolize the good old times. But when we idolize the good old times, the new thing that God is doing is what we miss out on.

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.

Isaiah 43:28-19

When it comes to being in relationships with narcissistic individuals, several things will always be present: spiritual blindness, arrogance based on insecurity, hardened hearts, and toxic envy, and jealousy. This means that the empathic, prophetic side of you will always be at war with the demonic side of them seeking to kill, steal, and destroy everything in its path.

At the end of the day, we have to ask ourselves, do we want to live in dry land forever ?

And it came to pass after a while, that the brook dried up, because there had been no rain in the land.

And the word of the Lord came unto him, saying,

Arise, get thee to Zarephath, which belongeth to Zidon, and dwell there: behold, I have commanded a widow woman there to sustain thee.

1 Kings 17:7-9

Until next time,

Be blessed

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Be Still And Know

It feels good staying busy from daytime to night time. Go to bed and do it all over again. Keeping busy means being in a constant state of Energizer bunny mode.

We were not made for this. You cannot heal when you won’t be still. Restoration requires revelation. And revelation requires meditation. Simple. Do as this crewneck says. Take a BE STILL and know moment SO YOU CAN HAVE a come to Jesus moment. And be blessed!

Wear it year round on cool nights, or in the fall on cool days.

I know that it is FALL. You are ready to cozy up by bonfires, with books, great movies, and blankets. How about cozying up with empowerment? Flourishing? Resilience? Rooting. Grounded in comfort and the love of the Savior in every piece of clothing that you wear?

THE VALLEY OF GRACE SHOP is open. Check us out. Live in comfort.  LOVE in comfort.  Walk in comfort.  Live in love.

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It’s All About Perspective

Introduction

Picture yourself at a get-together among friends. At this particular function, each person shares what’s on his or her heart. The sharing time gets really vulnerable, but it’s what everyone needs. After sharing, you sit around the fire talking about the good ol’ days when you were a teenager or young adult, having fun, making memories, and in so doing, making some bad decisions. But, they were the good old days.

After fireside time, one of your friends, who’s a performing artist, decides to play some heartfelt music. After the music, you guys decide to go back to eating more food, which happens to be wonderfully spread out on the tables up on the deck. Then there is more music, more fireside chat, and more vulnerability. One of your friends, who’s a photographer, has to grab a few photos that best capture these moments. After a while, everyone decides to go home. The night was perfect.

The Interviews

On the following day, a reporter from a local newspaper wants to write an article on the benefits and blessings of community. In order to write this article, the reporter feels that he needs each of the friends who were in attendance at the function to talk about what went on that night.

By the time all the interviews are over, the reporter wonders if everyone attended the same party. The answer was “Yes”. Each person gave their own account of what happened that night based upon his/her own perspective. Our perspective is made up of our experiences in life, good or bad, our trials and traumas, failures and successes, and our level of resilience.

The performing artist would come at it from a music angle, and blending in more of his experiences to describe that night. The fire starter would come at it from the angle of being an outdoorsman. The ones who cooked the food may focus on the culinary aspect of the night. If there are therapists or coaches in the group, they will focus on the vulnerability and conversations of the night. The photographer would tell their story based on what he/she sees through the lens of the camera.

No matter what each individual’s focus entails, the end result is the same: the reporter was able to assess what went on that night, feeling empowered to write a state-of-the-art article on community. And guess what, he has pictures to back up those moments.

The definition of empowerment is: the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights. In order for empowerment to be successful, there has to be several things involved/attained: information, perspective, autonomy, application, and self-awareness.

Empowerment

Empowerment is hindered when we have experiences, traumas, knowledge, and tons of information that is never applied to anything. We all want an empowered new chapter of life. The problem is that we don’t understand that there is an unconscious disconnect between the knowing and doing (life application).

Why Perspective?

Perspective cannot be left out. The reporter had to gain knowledge of each person’s perspective, applying knowledge, experience, and information that he already had in order to create a picture of his own perspective when writing the article. Creating a satisfying future hinges upon healing from past hurts. That’s because healing brings perspective and resilience.

It’s easy for us to resist the healing part. However, the knowledge of how everything goes hand in hand gives us the courage to move forward in our new chapter of life.

Until next time,

Katina

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