The Self-Righteous Cerebral Narcissist

Self-righteousness is a stance that any one of us can be guilty of. And being prideful about what it is that we know is also possible.

However, when it comes to an individual who is a self-righteous cerebral narcissist, the concepts of self-righteousness, where an individual loves rules and laws, and how they follow them; along with taking pride in their knowledge and intelligence, we are talking about pathology.

Unfortunately, these two issues are seared into their personality, and have been made this way through the usage of trauma as a portal.

We often correct our children. However, when it gets to the point of adults constantly correcting other adults about their language usage, and understanding of words, it gets to be too much. And overtime, being in relationships with these types of individuals can wear down on your self-esteem and self worth because of the cost and put downs about what you do know.

So how would you know if you are in a conversation with a self righteous, cerebral narcissist?

These individuals will behave just like the Pharisees did in the Bible. And their behavior can become so annoying over time, that it’s just like getting bit by a viper little by little.

You will experience one-upping competitions involving knowledge during the entire conversation. Secondly, they will make you feel like you don’t know anything. Thirdly, they will take the information you gave them and use it to one-up other people they’re in relationship with. And lastly, they will take their entire agenda of how they run their lives, and then force it onto you. They will also add other things on to this agenda that’s especially for you just to get a rise out of you doing them.

Self-righteous cerebral narcissists appear to be extremely responsible and knowledgeable in all areas. However, underneath it all, there exists rigidity, emptiness, and a void in their hearts and souls that is filled by obtaining knowledge, and following mountainous rules, of which they add on legalities, but never coming to the truth and understanding of God’s love.

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The Brood of Vipers

Introduction

Vipers are known for having patterns and colors that blend in well when it comes to their surroundings. So, if you are hanging out with your family on a campground, getting ready to go start a fire for marshmallows and warmth, you might ride up on a viper.

Paul was setting up a fire for himself and the other men after being shipwrecked, and instead of picking up firewood sticks, he picked up a viper that hung onto his hand for dear life.

Why are vipers so successful at what they do? They use ambush foraging.

They are the narcissistic individuals who sit and wait for long periods of time to conserve their energy. Because they wait for the perfect time to attack you by surprise, you are destabilized and immobilized in your body, causing a freeze trauma response.

How does this happen?

When they attack you, they inject venom inside of your mind, body, soul and spirit, wreaking havoc on your emotional, psychological, physical, and spiritual being.

Vipers usually hang out in groups like the Pharisees and the Sadducees, waiting to use a second party to entrap the third intended victim. Whenever a viper injects you with their venom, you become the poison container for all of their family’s past and present trials and trauma, the sin of certainty, their Holy Spirit box, and the Leviathan spirit, twisting and turning words around from scriptures, and attacking your motives.

John spoke of the vipers as a brood, meaning that they were a family belonging to Satan, the serpent in the garden of Eden. He knew that the Pharisees and Sadducees, coming to watch him perform baptisms was nothing but a setup for an attack. And if you are not careful, the Pharisees and Sadducees that are in your life will do the same. Their cover is being extremely spiritual/religious, knowing all the rules and regulations, and having an image of being put together. However, their hearts are far from what is being displayed. Double-mindedness, closed-mindedness, and fixed mindsets caused them to perpetuate their legalism.

Catch the next post where I’ll be talking about the python spirit.

Until next time,

Katina

The Tree of Knowledge

Satan offered Eve false hope, and she drank the Kool-Aid.

There was only one thing that he promised her would do the trick: the forbidden fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

When you met up with your narcissistic partner, he mimicked Satan, the first narcissist.

Satan offered you false hope, and you drank the Kool-Aid. There was only one thing that he promised would provide this hope: the forbidden man who appeared to you as if he were a tree of knowledge.

Which tree of knowledge will you pull from?: God’s or Satan’s.

Until next time,

Katina

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The Cycle of Learning & Knowledge Addiction

You’ve been running on the hamster 🐹 wheel 🛞 for a while. What’s keeping you there? You’re running on LACK.

The Lack Cycle of Love. Approval. Comfort. & Knowledge Addictions.

Your knowledge addiction is reinforcing your comfort addiction. The comfort addiction is reinforcing your approval addiction. The approval addiction is reinforcing your love addiction, and your starting and ending point remains the same.

If you could just watch one more video, read one more book, or listen to one more podcast, you know you’d be ready for action.

Stop lying to yourself.

You’ve been in this “learning” phase for over 10 years now.

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Grow or Go?

Never feel like forcing yourself to stay in something that God has obviously released you from is the best option. As a matter of fact, your growth will do the work for you. When people start seeing you growing after narcissistic abuse, they will make comments about you changing and being different, as if it’s a bad thing. It isn’t. They had gotten too comfortable with the “broken pieces” version of you. Either they will eventually hop on board or leave your life just as quickly as they entered it.

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Until next time,

Katina

CRAVINGS, LUST, & THE HOLY SPIRIT

God created us with cravings, and part of these cravings are for people, places, things, and ideas.  When our cravings turn into lost, we have crossed the line from normality to addiction, opening the soul-tie door.  

The only way to reverse the soul tie door is to partner up with the Holy Spirit and severing ties with anything that places worldly comfort over Godly comfort.  The Godly comfort that we receive is the gift of the personhood of the Holy Spirit.  The enemy’s entire goal is to make us forget that we have everything that we need inside of us.

Like the Pharisees, we are tempted to believe that the answer is on the outside of the dish. Looking at things in this manner gives us tunnel vision. We see the trees right in front of us. Yet, we miss the beauty of the entire forest.  

Along with partnering up with the Holy Spirit, the second must-do is allowing your body to go through the withdrawal symptoms that is associated with addiction. This will be very uncomfortable initially. It also requires you to build up resiliency and tolerance for containment.

Knowing that we are not alone, that we are partnering up with the Holy Spirit, our support groups, our inner circle, and our church community will help us exemplify what the true Body of Christ is meant to be: one on which all of its members work together for the common good.

Until next time,

Katina 

Healing with the Holy Spirit

The Holy Spirit lives inside of us to comfort, convict, teach, reveal, and sanctify.

When we’re in trouble, we turn to everything and everyone but the Holy Spirit. Speaking directly to the Holy Spirit who resides inside of us enables him to activate. He won’t force himself on us. For he is a gentleman. When it comes to being comforted, we prefer foods, drugs, alcohol, sex, television shows, shopping, and anything else that we can get our hands on. The problem with these alternatives is that they keep our minds, hearts, and souls tied and entangled in bondage.

We forget that we have a built-in comforter. That built-in comforter is there to wrap around us like the feeling of down feathers.


How many times do we forget to partner with the Holy Spirit when it comes to emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, financial, and relational healing? We want to be self-sufficient instead of God-sufficient. Self-sufficiency leads to pride, technology addictions, burn out, and disillusionment.

We forget to tap into the Holy Spirit because we tapped into our former partners portraying the angel of light, who he himself were infected with the spirit of narcissism. Thus, we think the answer is now tapping into ourselves, and not needing anybody. This is where we’ve got it wrong.

Healing from narcissistic abuse is a lot of work. And not only is it a lot of work, it requires a lot of energy. Our minds and bodies are connected. Thus, as we are pouring out all of the massive thoughts that are in our minds, we are also pouring out all of the massive memories stored within the cells of our bodies.

When we tap into all that God has given us for our inheritance, we are truly using our keys to the kingdom here on earth.

Questions to ponder:


What are some new and undiscovered ways in which you can see the Holy Spirit?

What are some ways that you kept yourself from the Holy Spirit?

How did you learn to let go of your idea of the Holy Spirit box, carrying him around like an object that needs to be contained?  Or, have you surrendered to him being unleashed in every area of your life?

Be Still And Know

It feels good staying busy from daytime to night time. Go to bed and do it all over again. Keeping busy means being in a constant state of Energizer bunny mode.

We were not made for this. You cannot heal when you won’t be still. Restoration requires revelation. And revelation requires meditation. Simple. Do as this crewneck says. Take a BE STILL and know moment SO YOU CAN HAVE a come to Jesus moment. And be blessed!

Wear it year round on cool nights, or in the fall on cool days.

I know that it is FALL. You are ready to cozy up by bonfires, with books, great movies, and blankets. How about cozying up with empowerment? Flourishing? Resilience? Rooting. Grounded in comfort and the love of the Savior in every piece of clothing that you wear?

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Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Divorce, & Remarriage with Authors Kirk & Debbie Taylor

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The million dollar question is: Should I stay or should I go? Some people think the answer to the question is obvious. But it is not.

Self gaslighting ⛽️, magical thinking, and refusal to “see” what is really going on will make answering this question even harder.

Add the fact that you are a Christian, and your hands are tied. Why? We’ve been programmed to believe that Christians stay in it no matter how bad it gets. And sadly, this misconception of being a Christian has trickled down from the parents to the children.

Listen in to Kirk and Debbie’s story, and find out how God took two toxic relationships, and turned them into one☝️big story of redemption.

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Mindset, Boundaries, Success, & Toxic Relationships

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We all want that magic formula. What no one tells you is that there isn’t one. Success in any relationship: romantic, business, friendships, or ministry, is a lot of work. Add toxicity to the mix, and you’ve got something on your hands. Valley of Grace Ministries and Timothy Horton GR8 own the licensing and rights to the Valley of Grace song.

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