When we don’t set boundaries, people get a three for one special of damaging our minds, wills, and emotions, and we become puppets for unclean spirits returning to our lives. #boundaries #value #worth #soul #love #narcissist
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It seems easier said than done when it comes to dealing with people and relationships. However, when we know what to look for and how to react in those situations, our minds, bodies, souls, and spirits can be better prepared for attack, and remove ourselves accordingly. DARVO (denial, attack, reverse victim and offender) is no joke. It’s gaslighting on steroids.
If you are not prepared, it will leave you in a FOG of fear, obligation, and guilt. When we choose to use DARVO instead of pressing into the pain, DARVO becomes our default operating system for every point of communication that we have with other people. DARVO means you’re saying “I value darkness over light.” Listen in. #love #narcissist #freedom The Love ❤️ and Freedom Toxic Relationship Recovery Coach
We often find ourselves driving down the same streets over and over again, bewildered as to how and or why we are where we are.
It’s almost like going through a corn maze. Just as soon as you thought you had found the path to the exit, you are right back on the path you were on 15 to 20 minutes ago, feeling trapped, in a state of stuckness, and trying to get out.
And thus, the record player becomes, “I thought that I was done with this particular situation. Why am I dealing with this again?”
This recording has both a loaded statement and question.
There is not a one size fits all answer. We could be listing the reasons all day long.
Sometimes we are dealing with certain areas over and over again because we are peeling the onion of that particular area one layer of a time. It’s tempting to want to plow through traumatic and emotional events. However, it’s not in our best interest.
Plowing through trauma equals elevated areas of pain. It’s the too much too fast syndrome so to speak.
We can order up 50 years of problems in three months please at the McDonald’s drive-through. Healing is work. And self-work takes time. Lots of time, energy, patience, and resilience.
But then we have other issues that are not dealing with plowing through trauma at all. These issues stem from lack of action on our part. Not knowing our identity, having a lack of unworthiness, possessing a lack of boundaries, appointing ourselves as the family, workplace, group, and or church scapegoat, projection, and our desire to control all contribute to unclean spirits re-entering areas in our mind, body, sold, and spirit that have already been cleaned out
And thus, when they re-enter, they bring seven other friends(demonic spirits) with them.
“When the unclean spirit has gone out of a person, it passes through waterless places seeking rest, but finds none. Then it says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when it comes, it finds the house empty, swept, and put in order. Then it goes and brings with it seven other spirits more evil than itself, and they enter and dwell there, and the last state of that person is worse than the first. So also will it be with this evil generation.”
Matthew 12:43-45, ESV
We like to skip over this part because it forces us to look at the role we are playing in the narcissistic system, whether it be at your church, in your home, family, workplace and or business location.
Like dealing with fractions, as soon as we can locate what the common denominator is in each and every one of the situations, then, and only then, can we come up with a feasible solution. Otherwise, we continue to go round and round, strung out, and in circles to a slavery system that is going nowhere until you make the decision to break camp.
When you say it is finished, you sign off to the fact that the striving is over. You will not try to control the outcome of the relationship. You will not beg your narcissistic partner to change. You will not try to fix him, control him, manipulate him a little bit in order to have the best version of him, be the best version of you, and have your needs met.
You will not beg for attention, love, affection, etc. You will not try to Build a Bear when it comes to your narcissistic partner. You will release control. You will allow God to be sovereign. You will be yourself and allow your partner to be himself.
It is finished.
Later, knowing that everything had now been finished, and so that Scripture would be fulfilled, Jesus said, “I am thirsty.” A jar of wine vinegar was there, so they soaked a sponge in it, put the sponge on a stalk of the hyssop plant, and lifted it to Jesus’ lips. When he had received the drink, Jesus said, “It is finished.” With that, he bowed his head and gave up his spirit.
People will do anything and everything to stop the work of God. Every tactic in the book will be used, including talking about your children and the people who you’ve been called to help, if possible. Nothing and no one is off limits. Listen in to find out what happened in scripture and how this plotting also correlates to what is and has happened to you. Either you will end up moving as God moves, or moving as the crowd moves, and miss out on your calling. #love #narcissist #dysfunctionalfamily
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Family dysfunction is learned behavior that has both been introduced into our DNA and socially adapted by what we see. It’s just like the old, saying, “monkey see monkey do.”
When we are not cognizant and self aware of our own patterns and behaviors, then we definitely cannot be other aware when it comes to the patterns and behaviors of individuals whom we are in relationship with. As the saying goes, we become the average of the five people that we hang out with the most.
And because we all have some type of brokenness, testing the spirits, inspecting the fruit like we do when we are in the produce department, and understanding our unresolved trauma, undealt with Brokenness, and proclivities, help us in knowing how to navigate the same familiar spirits in other people.
This is basically how you got hooked up with a narcissistic partner in the first place. Think of a AA battery. There is a plus and minus charge on each side. Your brokenness and how you define understand love is matched up with those same familiar spirits in him times 100, and on a whole Nother level.
When you understand your cycles, and the concepts that you have developed around love, you break the patterns, heal, and walk in wholeness.
How far will you go in keeping the family’s love story garden of toxicity and deceit going? #love #narcissist #dysfunctionalfamily
When Does The Family Dysfunction, Lying, & Deceitful Behaviors Lead to Narcissism and Where Does It Stop
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Our mission is to help women in toxic relationships regain clarity on love and freedom, release control, break soul-ties and unhealthy relationship patterns, build resilience and flourish, and reclaim their power, SOUL, and identity, so they will know they are enough.
Valley of Grace envisions millions of women owning their stories, provoking them to heal and walk in wholeness, operate in love and freedom, and empower and impact the lives of women in their homes, communities, and around the world.
We so believe in the emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical well-being of every woman that we donate 100% of the proceeds of The Valley of Grace Shop to Valley of Grace Ministries.
Valley of Grace Ministries provides many services, including coaching for women, without the financial roadblocks.
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No one wants to hear these three words. Just because you know that the discard phase is inevitable does not mean that you want someone to say this to you. Not only do these words invoke fear, they bring trauma, abandonment, and rejection along with it. So that you are not caught off guard, I am giving you a list of things to look out for in case you are in the storm of a soul-tied toxic relationship with a narcissistic partner.
Number 1: You disrespect and dishonor yourself to the point of not knowing who you are anymore. Even though he’s leaving you, he is still trying to convince you to sign up for a Biblical concubine situation.
Number 2: Everyday your friends keep reminding you about the crazy situation you are living in.
Number 3: You find evidence that he’s bought another computer(woman). This one has a 500-watt power supply.
Number 4: He’s doing anything and everything to get you to put him out (reverse discard) so he can avoid responsibility for leaving you and tell everybody that you put him out. If he’s been acting a fool and flaunting his new sidechick, they are NOT going to believe him.
Number 5: You are reminded of the insecurities you disclosed to him in the beginning.
Number 6: He pulls his mask down, telling you different things about himself that he has never told you before. They all lead up to him being a narcissist.
Number 7: He keeps stringing you and the kids along about his final leaving date.
Number 8: He brings all kind of evidence in the house showing that he has new supply, hoping that it will break you down and cause you to put him out.
Number 9: His final farewell is a fake suicide stunt to regain control as he sees that his grip on you is slipping.
Number 10: He calls up some of his family members, letting them know that he’s about to sabotage his living situation, and if it’s decent family members, they are encouraging him not to do it. If not, they will join in and help him destroy you.
Number 11: His new supply calls and leaves sensual messages on his voicemail, knowing that you are going to hear the messages.
Number 12: You find evidence that he is love bombing the new supply in both the same and different ways that he love bombed you: receipts from hotels, dinners, poems, songs, doing her advanced degree homework, blankets in the car, taking movies from your home to watch with her and her children, etc.
Number 13: He tells you that he loves you, but is not in love with you, and still wants to be friends. Basically, he wants you to sign up to be backup supply a.k.a. a hoover maneuver.
Number 14: You start seeing instances of spiders, black capes, and all other kinds of spiritual warfare.
Remember, you are not fighting against flesh and blood. Like in the devaluation phase, the discard phase involves both a lot of drama and trauma. If you decide to stay until the end, you will need your church community, small groups, and inner circle to walk with you and your kids every step of the way.
And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light.
