God created us with cravings, and part of these cravings are for people, places, things, and ideas.  When our cravings turn into lost, we have crossed the line from normality to addiction, opening the soul-tie door.  

The only way to reverse the soul tie door is to partner up with the Holy Spirit and severing ties with anything that places worldly comfort over Godly comfort.  The Godly comfort that we receive is the gift of the personhood of the Holy Spirit.  The enemy‚Äôs entire goal is to make us forget that we have everything that we need inside of us.

Like the Pharisees, we are tempted to believe that the answer is on the outside of the dish. Looking at things in this manner gives us tunnel vision. We see the trees right in front of us. Yet, we miss the beauty of the entire forest.  

Along with partnering up with the Holy Spirit, the second must-do is allowing your body to go through the withdrawal symptoms that is associated with addiction. This will be very uncomfortable initially. It also requires you to build up resiliency and tolerance for containment.

Knowing that we are not alone, that we are partnering up with the Holy Spirit, our support groups, our inner circle, and our church community will help us exemplify what the true Body of Christ is meant to be: one on which all of its members work together for the common good.

Until next time,



Ok, so you know that it is normal to crave relationship. You also know that it is normal to enter a new relationship. Knowing these two, one might wonder, then what is the difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship?

There are several differences between the two. In this post, I will discuss the first difference in detail. When you enter an unhealthy relationship, you are immediately “love-bombed.” Love-bombed means you are swept off your feet and over-the-top lavished on. It feels too good to be true. You are given flowers, poetry, words of affirmation, opened doors, lots of teddy bears, gifts, candy, etc.

Everybody knows about you. As a matter of fact, they seem to know more about you than you know about you.

Although this may seem natural, and nothing that should raise concern, it is. You just don’t know that yet. But by the next part you will. What seems to feel good; “this is my trophy, my woman, my display” show soon turns into you feeling like something is off. And not just a little bit. Something feels terribly off. An emotion starts creeping up that you are familiar with, but you can’t place it.

That emotion is shame. You are bathing in it. Next thing you know, you are in the Garden of Eden, and covering yourself with leaves. But why?

That is the all-encompassing question. We will answer that one in the next post. In case you missed the last post, catch up with Enmeshed Here.

Until next time,