You are tired of going from one situation to the next, looking out of place, uncomfortable, wearing fifty masks ,and feeling the need to esteem other races/ethnic groups above your own and hide in the shadows of who you are.
It’s not your fault your experiences don’t matter.
But if any anything, the more you hide, the deeper and more intense the shame is, and the more your true self is trying to catch up to you.
You are working hard to hide in the shadows, in the background of every situation that you are in.
Wearing those masks don’t seem to be working. What else can you do? Your experiences and life in general as a black woman don’t matter. You have to do something.
If you can just find the right formula to make people forget that you are black, you would be on the right track.
You are putting everything on the line, your family, your faith, your values, to prove that you can fit into white society, and assimilate the ideas of white supremacy without acknowledging that you are indeed a born and raised black woman.
If you’re worn out, and lose your entire blackness in the end, it will be worth it. At least you will have your needs met. You will finally belong.
The irony of the situation is that the harder you work to erase your race, ethnicity, nationality, culture, hair, melanin, and experiences, the more depressed, hopeless, lost, and confused you’ve become.
You cannot breathe from the layers of masks and skin you are wearing. You are literally in a state of identity-crisis and confusion. If God created us for a life of freedom and abundance, this couldn’t be what it looks like.
Running and hiding from your true identity makes that identity run after you. God created us out of love. And in that love, he gave us freedom.
Trying to hide from who you really are only intensifies the desire for the real you to burst forward, and come running after you, which in turn, places you in bondage. But guess what? You are in bondage to yourself.
God is the God of all creation and revelation and has no respect of persons.
Your roots matter. Your hair matters. Your skin, culture, and experiences matter. The same God who created every other race and nationality that exists on this earth , is the same God that created you as a black woman.
Running away from your identity creates an existential crisis, and in effect, a lostness. You must know and live the truth in order to be truly free. That is why your efforts to run and hide are not working.
First, you have to identity the root issues of unworthiness, shame, and identity crisis.
Then, everything that needs to happen in order for you to walk in your true identity, authenticity, and freedom as a black woman, and even more importantly, as a child of God, will fall in place.
In Digging Deep Down in Those Roots, you go deep, get to the root of the matter. You deal with some hard, but necessary truths. You grow because you are away from the surface (comfort zone).
How do you begin to walk in this new level of freedom?
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- Move into a new chapter of reclamation and worthiness by joining other black women to form a healing circle .
Digging Deep Down in those Roots…helping black women reveal their true identity and worth.